No matter how smooth sailing a relationship may seem in the beginning, there will always come a time when things might get a little bit rocky, and you and your partner may not know how to deal with it, thus, leading you to the point where you just keep shouting at each other, or one of you tends to run away and nothing really gets solved.
You know, you can actually start addressing these issues in the beginning. It's okay to have a casual conversation about how you both get when you’re angry, so you can begin to prepare for it.
People get angry in different ways, and there are also various things that make people tick, some of which may even seem normal for others, and that makes things even more complicated. There are people who, when they get angry, they tend to shout, scream, you know, the total textbook type of angry. For some, these people are easier to read, simply because it really shows when they’re angry. If you’re this way, you might also find yourself to be confrontational so that even the little things may seem to be big things. You are not the type who would wait for a day or so before talking to your partner about what irks you, if you get angry now, you’d confront him or her now, too. It might also seem scary when you shout, but then again, once you blurt out how you feel, you might tend to easily feel better too , and thus, the problem won’t go on for long.
There are also people who tend to keep quiet when they are angry. They do not want to talk, period. If you are this way, maybe you just like to process things first before talking about them, or maybe you just do not want to make a big deal out of things. There are also cases when people in this category tend to literally, or that nothing's wrong, and then hours or a day or two later, they end up saying things that are not really positive, so it may irritate the other.
There could also be people who tend to blurt out their anger little by little. For example, they’d make disparaging remarks about you, say they hate the day, post their feelings on social media, notice things that they don’t usually notice, you know they are angry because of their mood, and because of their gestures.
And there are also people who tend to have volatile tendencies when they get angry. These are those with anger management issues, and with the fast-paced kind of life most people live these days, it's not hard to understand why. However, this could really be a problem because these people may tend to be vengeful, in big and small ways. They may have the tendency to be violent, or they can hurt themselves, or break things in the house, etc.
Basically, this means that you have your own method of expressing anger, and, your partner does, too.
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