Sometimes the quest for happiness can be as confounding as Indiana Jones looking for lost treasure. Just when you think you have a clue, some giant boulder comes rolling toward you. Here are some tips to help you find some joy.
You may have good people in your life, but have been out of touch. Picking up the phone and giving old friends a call can brighten both of your days and perhaps your lives as well.
That means that no one but you can really make you happy, even though it may not feel that way. When I see a smile on the face of someone I care about, it makes me happy, especially if I helped put it there. Maybe it is an inside job after all.
If you are relying on one set of circumstances or person to make you happy, it probably won’t happen. You need to broaden your scope of friends and activities. Also, know that engaging in new adventures creates brain chemicals that add to your happiness.
When we go against our instincts, and it backfires, we usually feel sad. Follow your intuition and let it guide you toward people and things that will make your life just a tiny bit better. Day by day, your happiness will grow.
Many people push away happiness when they are overwhelmed. When you keep everything in your head, it can be difficult to get the perspective you need. Try making lists of the things that seem too big to manage on your own. You may find that you can do most of these things on your own and that the list isn’t as long as you thought, but if you need help, ask for it.
This may sound simple, but if you are living with those people, it can be very complicated. In that case, a family therapy session could be very helpful. Many people don’t recognize that they are making life difficult for others, and in a group setting with a trained professional, they can learn to behave differently without feeling attacked.
There are a bunch of apps you can download that will allow you to track everything you do. What you think you do every day, and what you really do are very different. Spend a week mapping out every task you do, even activities like going to the toilet.
When there’s a decision to be made between stuffing my face with junk food, which lowers my energy, and staying home to blog, I do the later. If a good movie comes out that everyone is raving about, I choose to blog and defer the cinemas until I need a break.
While everyone is living a distracted life full of annoyances, I want you to consciously choose activities you love. Treat what you love like your child. If anyone threatens the well-being of things you love, then defend yourself like you would defend your child.
Instead of driving in your box car, to the box supermarket, to buy a box of manufactured food, discover nature. Nature’s beauty will make you happy without you realizing. It’s the animal in us that loves to go and breathe fresh air out in our natural habitat.
Bring your camera with you and take some photos. Zoom right into a flower and every detail of the bee that is resting on it. Use technology to bring you back to the present through nature, rather than using it to become even more disconnected from your true happiness.
After all, happiness can be hard to feel at times, so don’t think there is something wrong with you if you don’t feel it. We all go through phases, and some people are just naturally happier than others, so try to avoid comparing yourself with others. The truth is that happiness is here for you, and using the techniques above will allow you to feel more of it.