Lily was born in a warm family and both her parents had been dedicated to decent jobs for many years. Her mother was relatively tougher than her father. Most of the time when Lily made a mistake or misbehaved by breaking some rules made by her parents, it was always her mother who blame her. However, her father was always kind and nice to her, aften educating her with patience and role models. Her parental educating model in this way had mould Lily into an excellent girl with strong personality and persistance. For many years she performed well in her study until she got her master degree, much owing to her strict requirements on herself. She always wanter herself to be perfect and made strict requirements on herself. Moreover, she was also picky as she often tended to hope that people around her to be perfect, similar to her. Such perfectionism also made her highly stressed sometimes and a little tough in her personality.
Growing in such a family, Lily was generally smooth in her study for a long time and she was also able to cope her work well. However, she just found it was not easy to find a suitable partner she was eager to build a family together. Like a stone can also be changed in shape when something unexpected happened. At the first year of her work life upon graduation with her master degree, Lily got to know about Peter in a gathering party. After communicating about each other, they found unexpectedly that they were from the same place and were in the same middle and high school, yet they hadn’t known each other for many years before! What aroused Lily’s more interest was that how Peter could become a math teacher in a university when he grow in a totally different family from her.
Compared with Lily, Peter had experienced more toughness in life. He had once a good childhood memory as his father was a businessman and was relatively strong in providing financial support for Peter, who stayed with his grandparents, just enjoying more freedom without too much limits and responsibilities from his parents. By the time he was just 15 years old, Peter’s father was checked to suffer from a severe disease and was predicted to live no more than 2 years. Such a severe disease was just a great shock to Peter and his other family members. However, freedom and love from Peter’s grandparents in his childhood gives Peter much power to get through. He was always silent and quiet at the beginning of the 3 years upon his father’s death. Later he had learned to accept and thought about what he really cared. As he was interested in math since his childhood and still performed well in this subject in tough years. Without his father’s support for several years of his later school years, he was still lucky enough to get small help or support from his other relatives and friends, from whom he had learned how to be grateful to life and people even in hard times.
Lily was relatively smooth all the years of her growth but when she was confronting with great stress or too busy schedule, she could not adapt herself well and always suffer from severe anxiety. Peter, who had ever enjoyed a happy childhood and more freedom, while suffered great loss in his adolencent years, was not able to cope with different tough situations much easily. He always looked more calmly whenever an emergency happend. He was able to teach his math course calmly in a fun way with hundreds of students sitting in a big classroom, and that what attract Lily and even adored by her.
With more and more communication, from Peter Lily realized that whenever we were under a tough situation, the first step we needed to learn was reconciliation and then acceptance and then was to take actions. Reconciliation is not a sign of weekness but a wisdom of knowing about the real truth. With recondiliation, we can become more calm and gentle in heart easily. All these will give us strength to cope with the tough conditions more stably and wisely. Then Lily began to surrend up some of her perfectionism and learn to accept more things and people in her life. And she gradually learned more good personality from Peter and they fell in love later and build a happy family.
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