Here in this passage, three stories on why children are so rebellious. Story 1 is a quarrel of my friend with her mother. Story 2 is about Super Speaker. Story 3 is about a speech of Jobs in Stanford University.
Story 1
After quitting her previous job, my friend Lily found a new job in an insurance company and she enjoys it now.
But what’s made her disappointed is that when she shared her mother with the news. Her mother burst out strong opposing : “Insurance is not suitable for your personality because many insurance companies are just swindles. You had better find a stable job as you’re always unstable since you were a little girl...”
“I am always a bad girl in your heart since my childhood!” shouted my friend to her mother and then she canceled the call.
At that time she was just sitting on cold bench in a corner of a park and golden leaves were swept by the autumn wind. She found her crying face on her phone and her mood seemed to be in winter in advance.
Story 2
I thought of a speech topic themed “War between Father and Son” made my Martin in Super Speaker. A sentence impressed me deeply: my father’s strong “no” to me has brought deep frustrating feeling and this frustrating feeling will transfer into rebellions.
My friend later shared with me that it seemed that she had never been praised by her mother. Though she had gained lots of awards, she had been tagged with “incapable in many aspects” in her mother’s heart. Then she had begun to behave just the opposite to her mother even till now. To take marriage as an example, she just behaved the opposite. The more frequently her mother urges her to get married, the less she is willing to contact her.
My friend’s feeling to her mother is just similar to Martin’s feeling to his father.
What we can make it as a summary is that not until you have the ability to make independent thinking ability and have the wisdom to make independent ideas, will you really grow up. You haven’t grown up if you obey everything to your parents. You haven’t grown up either if you always behave in an opposite way.
Story 3
Read the following paragraph of Jobs’ speech at Stanford University.
“Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Voice from our parents may also be a source of noise to our inner voice. Our hard-working parents always wish us to follow them and do as they tell us. In our parents’ opinion, if we don’t behave as our parents advised, life will be harder.
Our parents have indeed done much for us except for praise or acceptance. But praise or acceptance to children are really important because we need them to encourage ourselves to grow more independently and bravely.
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