I had once argued with a friend about a question when talking about life: “which will last longer in people’ memory — joys or pains?” What I gave by then was joys.
Till days ago when I recalled an incident happened in my adolescent time did I felt the pain of losing someone I loved by then still engraved in my heart. At that time, I did bad in math. However, my parents and teachers just believed I could learn it well and I could make improvements. But their too much expectation give me great pressure. Then I had to endure. It’s nothing in my views now. But for that me in student time, I had always been heavily suppressed by great pressure and I always felt guilty, suppressed and great pain each day.
In the movie Little Miss Sunshine, Olive’s family is always in pain. All her family members seem to be a little weird. Her grandfather is a rogue. Her father is going to break up his own business but still is favor of success. Her mother is addicted to smoking... Olive is the only one who looks to be happy but she also has her trouble. On one hand she practices dancing everyday and is eager to win the beauty selection competition, on the other hand, she is afraid of being a loser in the competition. The movie ends with failures of all her family members: breaking up of her father, death of her grandfather, failure of the dream of her brother. Even they’ve failed, all her family members tried their best to push the broken car to start normally to send Olive to take part in the beauty selection competition but she was canceled the qualification of participating it because of dancing striptease at the beginning of the competition.
This movie has revealed the reality that all hardships of Olive’s family members can’t be avoided. That is, joys and pains always coexist in our daily life. But a scene that all Olive’s family members go onto the state to dance the lesson her grandfather had taught her at the end has shown intimacy of her family. It just teaches us that pains can both hurt us and teach us to grow up.
“And he looks back and decides that all those years he suffered. Those were the best years of his life because they made him who he was.” It’s true. Pains can’t be thrown up. We need to be up and down between pains and joys. What we need to do is to face them and accept them.
So don’t deny any of your life phase because it is painful. For example, don’t deny any losing of love, no gains in business or troubles in career. You will find that you who had been toughed by all those painful things very young, pure and brave when you’re old in the future one day.
All progresses in our life are just created by pains. So the most important thing we should do in pains is to transfer those pains into efforts and this shall involves your long lasting efforts.
First, you should find something you like take your time to grope. When you’re very into something you’re interested in, you will be more positive rather than negative.
Second, you should have very clear plan. A clear plan can help you make a schedule in detail. And in this schedule you can put your habits into practice. With good habits in long time, you will gradually sweep all obstacles in the road you’re going forward.
At last, you had better seek help from others. Sometimes we just need help and it’s not shameful at all. Instead, your connections with the persons you seek help from will be more close and in this process you can often gain good mood.
Everyone comes to this world with his own duties. He should try his best to complete those duties whether they’re big or small.
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