I Want to Meet Mom --Today!
Another cue for you wants to meet his friends and family right away. Meeting friends and family is definitely someIthing I recommend for people in a new relationship, but not for a while - like a month or so after you begin seeing one another (not a month from meeting online!). When you are pushing to meet his friends and family too soon, you probably lack close friends or family in your own life and are craving that from someone else.
Not having any close friends of your own will put you in danger of being what I like to call a Rest Stop - a woman men like to date until their real perfect match comes along.
Textaholic Anonymous
Another signal to you that you're not in a good relationship space is if you find yourself texting him all day long. I have one word for you here - NO. This is not good for a few reasons. First of all, you’re making him your hobby, which is a major no-no. Secondly, you're indicating to him you have no life outside of him - no hobbies, no integrity while you're at work (or you wouldn't be spending so much time texting him), and you are indicating you're going to be needy and controlling. If you are but are doing this in a relationship, you are trying to fill your own need to have a close relationship in your life. You are screaming desperation. On some level, you believe you cannot exist without this person in your life. Well, keep this up and you'll need to figure out how do to just that!
Know Thy Self (Esteem)
Another warning sign relates to your self-esteem. If your self-esteem rises and falls with this guy and how well he's responding to you, you're not in a good relationship place. Rushing a relationship is all about you and how you feel about yourself, not about how he feels. You’re lacking confidence if your self-esteem rises and falls with the relationship.
You find yourself doing any of these things, you need to step back and do a little reflection. I have already mentioned comfortable in Your Own Shoes as a great confidence book for women. This would be a great place to start. Another great book for you, if you've read comfortable, is read one of my more recent books, Live Live You're Dying. This book will help you learn how to embrace life and life it to its fullest. You should take a few moments now to Exercise 7 in your workbook.
Generally speaking, you want to exchange few brief emails with a guy before you decide to meet him offline. One email isn’t quite enough, 20 is too many. If you’re too long and swap too many emails, or too much information into there you run the risk of your first rue occurring in the friend zone. It is impossible to become so comfortable someone via all of this online info or sharing that you surpass them at have a romantic relationship. So: mystery for the one on one date. You will also know ifs time when you have been able to compare the things he said in his profile to his emails. You can determine whether or not he's staying on track with his profile, not feeding you lines of bull.
How do you move things offline?
The best next step past swapping emails on the dating site is to use Skype or another video chatting service. This serves several purposes. First and foremost, if he agrees and actually shows up for the chat, he's likely legit. Secondly, you can see if he matches his profile photos.
You can also sort of check out his environment, and conversely, he can check out yours. As you’re chatting, look at his surroundings. Is he a complete slob? Does he have piles of dishes and laundry all over? The final bonus to Skype is that you still don't have to give out your phone number yet and you can easily block him if he's a dud.
A guy who either has lied to you in his profile, posted outdated photos or photos which aren’t even of him, will avoid a video chat. As soon as he begins stalling, dump him!
Once you've video chatted with him, and you're still interested, you can talk on the phone. Many guys aren’t comfortable asking you out in an email. We’ve talked about Google? Phone numbers before and this adds a layer of security for you and also enables you to block him easily if things flop. Many smart phones allow you block a number as well.
If he drops his phone number and says, “Call me”，politely explain to him that you're an old-fashioned girl who likes the guy to call her first. One thing you want to do, especially in this phase of your relationship, is let him pursue you. Men love the chase. If you take that away from him, you are taking some of the challenge out of the situation. Give him your phone number and let him call you!
This can present you with a good case of nerves. There are a few things to do here. First of all, when you provide him with your phone number, give him a few time slots of availability. "Well Gregg, my number is 555.555.5555 and I’d love to chat with you. I'm usually available either Monday or Wednesday evenings after 7, but I go to bed early." Now I know to call you close to 7 on Monday.
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