As there are many common pitfalls in online dating from different kinds of message responses, especially those out of your expect. You have to learn to avoid and make quick fixes to make sure you go smoothly in online dating. The author hereby introduces some exmaples of commonpitfalls and puts forward some suggestions for you.
She's not replying my messages - This could be due to various reasons. Most common is that you didn't offer her enough value. Send her a message that is positive, cute, demonstrate you are happy something that you think is cool that does not require her answer.
Sudden silence after back and forth communication - Well done this is at least better than no reply at all. The simple rule as long as shefs responding either negative or positive unless it's an absolute stop messaging me; she's interested. The reason for a breakdown in communication between you two could be due to various grounds, for example, you didn't provide her with enough value, you asked her out too soon without building rapport, or she’s upset her hamster died, etc. The way to combat this is to be direct, call her out for not replying, use humor don’t sound needy or desperate. Here are few examples：
•hey hope you're well. Wanted to touch base with ya in case you get rich.
•Dear diary, cute girl vanished. Should I send a search party for you.
•hey, sorry life’s been busy but on a marvelous side I managed to learn one direction song on the piano! How have things been for you lately?
•Just met your twin:)
•OMG! You will not believe what happened today.
If she seems annoyed in her response, then simply use humor to deal with this. For example "Oh I must have mistaken you for someone who had a sense of humor hehe its okay I still love you so don't go jumping off a building or anything :)”
My photos are not that great - We talked about this in the earlier chapter the importance of photo for online dating. Re-read the chapter again. Don't be penny wise dollar foolish. Invest in getting your professional picture taken ask around for your friends who are good at taking photos. One neat trick is to have a picture you taken with a cute girls (or a gal) then cut the girls face by up to 25% so that the girl looking at your picture can tell that the girls in the picture with you are attractive ladies, and this builds social proof.
How long should I wait before replying her message - Roughly the same time it takes for her to answer your message. No matter who it is your wingman, business partner, a lifelong partner you have to set the frame early. If it takes a girl to reply to your text two days and you respond to her text within 5 minutes what do you think it tells her about you subconsciously. That you are needy, desperate waiting for her to reply the text, just another nice man all the wrong things. You don't have to wait exactly same two days to respond to her text but wait long enough. Now use your common sense here she really might have had a some issues, i.e., the phone got lost or her close relative pass away. You don’t have to be rude to her when she explains why she could not get back to you. Or this could even be a shit test to see if you are a needy guy etc. It is important that you set the frame early how you treat people, how you want to be treated, your values. It might seem minor but slowly consciously, or subconsciously another person in a relationship is going to dictate the relationship if you don't do so. If you always treat the person nicely even when they are rude or not fair to you, they will think its is okay to act like you in that way. So always be nice to them at first and then adapt to how the other person is treating you. Life will be much fairer.
Exercise
What is your main sticking point and what steps are you going to take it to overcome it.
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