Congratulations! Now that your profile is set up, you've taken a proactive step to finding love. You don't want to stop now. A mistake I’ve seen a lot (and made myself) is that, having made a profile, people just let it sit there. This can happen for a variety of reasons; it could be forgetfulness, nervousness, or simply just thinking that now everyone will come to you.
An easy way to overcome the forgetfulness is to install the app for the corresponding dating site on your phone. This will make it easily accessible to you at anytime, and you can choose to receive push notifications when you get a like or a message.
As to the nervousness, approaching your dating site experience as you would. Anything else that's new: assume (even if it's not entirely true) that everyone else is as nervous as you are. Dating sites also make it easy to show interest to some one even if you're too shy to actually send a message. They often have ‘flirt’ buttons (also known as ‘like’ or ‘favorite’ buttons, the name just differs with the site), which you press when you're interested. The person will get a notification of your like, and may potentially engage you in a conversation. These buttons can also serve as a way of book-matching profiles that catch your attention, so that if you do want to send them a message later on, it's easy to find them on dating sites also make knowing mutually attraction easy. Often, if you both liked each other, you will be notified of the compatibility. Be careful though, too often people press botton "like" based on physical appearance alone.
Typing bottons is a bit of a passive approach, and my suggetion would be to do your research. By this means, going to read their profile carefully, you may find that you are in common, that finding a topic to conversation is easier than you think. It's amazing that having something in common can make you feel at relaxed about conversation. If you find that this is the case, don't be excited and you are attractted to their profile to show their spent time reading. Your first message is your favorite. Let them feel that you're genuine, it could be cut to quote a favorite one which is perfect to make you feeling with common sense, endeavours.
However,don't tell them your entire life story, your hopes, dreams and fears in this first message. While a long message can be awesome to receive, messages like the latter can be a bit scary and turn people off. The rule of thumb is,if you wouldn't do it in person, don't do it online either. This particular no-no shouldn't even bear mentioning, but unfortunately it does. Never, ever start a message with something like, "hey sexy, especially when searching for a soul mate. It isn't polite or respectful, and it sends the wrong signals.
But, assuming you're starting a nice, well thought out conversation, never be hesitant to send the first message. People really enjoy knowing that they've caught someone’s attention. If the person doesn't respond, don't let it affect you too much. Go down the list of your other high matches and talk to them too. I guarantee you, someone is going to start a conversation. Once a conversation has begun, don't stop there, continue it, but also talk to other matches, to ensure you to go out with the absolute best fit.
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