Once you decide which of these approaches works best you can use this as a way to try out all sorts of kisses and techniques. First kisses are often the most nerve-wracking so practice giving a kiss that has a soft, gentle, romantic feel. Conduct a little experiments to discover what works and what feels good. Imagine what a partner on the receiving end would experience if these kisses were landing on their lips.
But don't stop there. Practice other ways of kissing as well. When you're at the stage in a relationship where you're making out and kisses are coming one after another you're going to want to add some variety to your kisses to keep things fun and interesting. There are lots of ways to change things up — you can vary pressure, duration, intensity, tempo, placement, movement and technique. Here are a few ideas to try out when you practice:
After several long, lingering kisses applied with medium pressure, follow up with a series of kisses so soft that they barely brush the skin, a move that can feel spine-tinglingly good. From there, lead into some kisses that are more intensely passionate while these shifts are fairly dramatic, keep in mind that even subtle changes in pressure, intensity and duration can make one kiss feel different from another.
Tact completely when you move to a new spot, or you can leave a trail of small kisses as you go; or you can stay in constant contact by sliding your lips from one spot to another. (When you're with a real partner another way that you’ll want to change things up is by sometimes moving off their lips entirely, to kiss their cheeks, neck, forehead, etc.)
Play with tempo. Just as you don’t want all of your kisses to be alike, If every kiss is wildly different from the one that came before it that too can become predictable and monotonous, so change up how much you vary your kisses. For example, follow a series of similar kisses with a place your kisses on various parts of the mouth. Start out kissing the center of the mouth, but then move to about where the corners of a real mouth would be focus kisses or one lip (top or bottom), and then give your attention to the other one. Also, alternate how you get from one location to another — you can break out sudden riot of variety where pressure, placement and/ or duration changes with each kiss — but after this burst of creative energy dial things back so that the changes become more subtle and relaxed.
Experiment with interesting new ways to use your mouth such as nibbling and sucking the skin. This is a topic well cover in more detail in the next chapter, along with another familiar kissing move you may want to first practice on your own: using your tongue.
How do you know how much variety is enough, or, for that matter, too much? The answer is simple: whatever feels good to you and your partner. Trust your instincts. Obviously, practicing by yourself doesn't reproduce the full experience of kissing someone, especially the emotional side of connecting with another person in such an intimate way. The give-and-take that occurs while kissing a partner, their reactions as well as your own feelings, are your best guides for when and how to change things up.
There's More To Kissing Than Getting The Mechanics Right
If I had to pick one tip that's most important to remember when it comes to kissing (other than the fact that women love to have their neck kissed), it would be this: Technique helps, but there is no substitute for genuinely liking the person you're with. Feeling emotionally connected, even more than physical attraction, is probably the best guarantee that kissing your partner will never become boring or stale.
Of course, you may not be at a stage in your life where you're looking for a long-term commitment. But even if it's mostly about fun right now, you'll probably find that kissing is a lot more fun with someone you share a genuine affinity with and liking for. Think about the people you enjoy conversing with the most. The ones in your life with whom you can talk every day without ever becoming bored. Ideally, you'll have that same kind of rapport with your romantic partner.
Broadening this idea out a little bit, although new love gets celebrated in songs and movies far more often, there's a lot to be said for a romance that has lasted long beyond that initial burst of excitement. There are genuine benefits to having a solid relationship when it comes to kissing. Newness wears off pretty fast, but real friendship endures and can create a foundation for a deeper passion. You've each had time to learn about the other's likes and dislikes. You know where and how to deliver just the right touch, and how to make each other happy.
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