Online dating is unlike any other dating experience. You will come across many different types of people, but you should still hold your ground to care about online dating etiquette in any case. Remember that you don't owe anyone a response, especially if they are rude, annoying or intrusive. However, if someone contacts you in the nicest possible manner, you should always reply even if you don’t like them. Imagine how you'd feel if you spent half an hour thinking of an opening line and wind up ignored. Don't take online dating too seriously and try to have some fun. After all, the fun is in the search, not always the outcome But don't join these sites if you are looking for a place to build up your self-esteem and get rid of your frustrations. Some of the users are truly looking for love, so it will be cruel and unkind to play with their emotions.
Top 3 messages that always get a response!
Humor always works like magic in online dating, so even if you are not a comedian, you can surely think of something. For example you can say:I read that online dating is a numbers game, but I didn't find your number anywhere. Just kidding. You seem like an interesting person, I would love to find out more about you.
If you read on their profile that they have a special interest, like art shows, concerts, museum tours, go out of your way axid find some event happening in your location. That way you are not scheduling a date, only friendly letting your potential flame know the date and place where they can enjoy themselves. Don't ask them to go with you of course; if they want to thank you for your effort, they can invite you themselves.
You can, at the same time, make them laugh and test if they are paying attention to their messages at all. Type in something like this: Hello Christy, I’ve noticed many people lurking on your profile, so I wanted to let you know that you shouldn’t be afraid, because I'm bravely standing at your service. Just whistle and I'll fly over. —Superman
Never cut and paste a message!
Sending the same message to all the girls or guys you like is a mistake of epic proportions. You will never polish your conversational skills if you keep copying the same email. If you use your brain and imagination to personalize every email, you will only get better in time. And what happens if the lines you use don’t work, but you’ve sent them to 30 users? You have just ruined your chance with 30 different eligible partners. Work them one by one, even if it takes a lot of time. Why are you so in a hurry? There’s a time and place for everything, so don’t force such important issues.
How to respond
Be friendly in your responses. Even if you don’t entirely like what the other person wrote. Maybe they were nervous, maybe they are shy, maybe they haven’t done a lot of online dating and they don't know their way around. If they have asked you a question, answer it, and be precise. Don't make them read between the lines, because you might end up mislead yourself. But before you respond, check their profile in detail and see if you actually like them. If you don't, politely excuse yourself and let them know you are not interested.
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