Going on a first date can feel like walking a tightrope: You’re trying to impress her without coming on too strong - or worse, looking desperate.
As a result, lots of guys wind up making the same mistakes. A new survey by activity-planning site Vimbly identified the top pitfalls that turn women off. Some of them might seem trivial, but let’s face it: It’s a first date. You don’t get a lot of leeway to mess things up when there’s no established relationship.
Although it seems like a great classic move to make, don’t take your date out to a movie. Like we said before, the entire purpose of going on a date with someone is to talk to them and get to know them. This cannot be done in a movie theater. Save this for future dates, if you end up going on any with her. Be simple about this, and don't bother going over-board and making it awkward. Your first date should be romantic, fun, and light.
Include Walking: The ideal way to have a first date is to include some walking in it. If you go to a museum or walk along the river, there’s less pressure than sitting across from each other. This allows you to freely share ideas and connect with each other and feels less like an interrogation. If you do decide to go somewhere else after, like out to dinner, you will already have broken the ice.
The Man should Pay: For the first date, you should follow the old custom and pay for the date. Unless you are Dutch, this is the only acceptable way to go and shows that chivalry is not dead. She might offer, but don't let her cover it.
Make It a Two-Way Conversation: Sure, you have to tell her about yourself, but dominating the conversation by rambling about your life will make you look narcissistic. Or worse: By not showing any interest in her, it can seem like you’re just waiting for the date to be over so you can get her into bed.
Ditch the Heavy Talk: You probably just want her to get to know the real you. But don’t dive right into the darkest moments of your past. Nobody wants to be brought down by another person-especially when you don’t know each other well yet. Remember: First dates are about having fun.
Be a Gentleman: Women today don’t need over-the-top chivalry, but that doesn’t mean you should slack on your manners. Letting the door slam in her face, talking down to waiters, and spending the entire date glued to your phone are all behaviors that she won’t find attractive.
Do you know what to do after the date is done?
Walking her up: When your date is over, you should walk her back up to her house to make sure she gets in safely.
As you are making the walk up to her house, try to link arms with her. This is a polite and non-threatening method for establishing contact with her and seeing how she reacts.
Should you Kiss her? Should you make a move on her now? The fact is, there’s no one size fits all rule for what to do here. Ifs all about how the vibe and evening has been going. Keep in mind that some people see kissing as meaningful, and only to do it if you have an interest in seeing her again. She might ask you to come in; but saying no is a good way to build up some anticipation and drive her wild, in a good way.
When to give her a Call: You should call your date the following day, and no longer than two days after in a pinch. This is your chance to tell her you had a great time and would love to see her again. As far as securing a second date goes, the next chapter will cover this in depth. If she doesn’t answer for some reason, leave her a voice mail and request that she re-turn your call. If two days go by and you don’t hear back, this is a clear sign that it wasn’t there for her.
Now, what should you do in order to get another date with the girl you are interested in?
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