So you got a woman’s phone number, congratulations! Now you are probably home wondering if you should telephone or message her now, or two days later? Or what should you say?
The time frame when you should call a woman doesn't really matter. It can be a hour or three hours later. I simply wouldn’t delay it too long. For instance, take two days to call a girl I met on the street or nightclub. Because the more time you let pass the weaker the connection you have with her gets.
A few years ago, when I got a phone number I used to always call women. I enjoyed hearing their voice and still do.
I then would make small chat, ask them a few questions, “How are you doing?” etc. just to build a more rapport and then I would invite them out. I would spend more than 10 minutes in my initial chat and I prefer to leave the rest of the conversation for later in my first date.
So you got her phone number, congratulations! Now you are probably home wondering if you should telephone or message her now, or two days later? Or what should you say?
However, nowadays l do things mostly through messages. I realized sometimes that calling women wasn't very practical. Either because they are working, or with their group of friends or doing something else. For that reason, sometimes they wouldn’t pick up my call.
The messages I send are stupidly simple. The first one I always ask, "Hi, how are you doing?” Just to see if the number isn’t flake. If she doesn’t reply after a few hours then I may send a second one if I really like a girl. ln case, she does’t reply to that one then I stop.
If a woman replies then I invite her out on my second message. Always make sure to mention a specific location to meet and time. For example:
"I would like to go out with you tomorrow. We can meet at location X at this hour. Are you available?”
If she replies yes, then you have a date. Otherwise, if she can't probably because she has another appointment. It’s commonly women will recommend another time if they like you.
if they start with “I don't know...” blabla... and bullshit or worse, don't reply. Usually, it is because a woman isn't that into you. You may always send a second message and try it again. But from there, I wouldn’t waste more time and just move on.
It is okay to initially pursue women a bit. But a bit is a just bit and bit too much then you start devaluing yourself.
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