One of the most challenging factor for women over 40 to search for their soul mate online is limited time. To save your precious time and energy, intention setting is quite important before starting your journey of seeking for your ideal partner online. Just like writing list of items to buy before going shopping in the supermarket, creating a wish list for what you want to seek for from a relationship is of great significance.
Setting the intention is like charting a destination on a map. You need to know what your end goal is so you can work towards it. What you're looking for in a relationship will determine what dating sites/apps you use plus what kind of photos and text you need to include in your profile. A few things to consider:
□Are you looking for long term love, companionship or casual dating?
□How much arc you willing to pay for online dating sites (if at all)?
□Will online dating be your only source of meeting matches?
□What kind of man are you looking for?
Why we need to set intentions
I'm often surprised by the number of women who tell they’re ready for a relationship but don't have any idea as to what they’re looking for in a man. When I ask them what they're looking for, I often get answers like 'a relationship' or 'a man’. Those are all vague ideas. If you don't know what you want, how will you recognise it? How will you work out what you’re looking for?
Are you looking for a bit of fun online? Are you looking for someone to explore your home town? Are you looking for a travel buddy? Setting the intention for online dating will help you attract and date men who are aligned with what you're looking for. Think of it as a way to filter out the men who may not share similar interests/intentions. Many women I speak to often sign up for dating sites and hope for the best. But I personally think it is not a good investment in time. If you know what you're looking for, you'll have a much higher chance of attracting better dates.
Write your wish list
What do you look for in a date? What are some values you'd like your partner to share? (Note： values and interests are two separate things). This may include religion, family, spirituality... etc.
Tip: A wish list could include anything from physical attributes to financial status to shared values. That's totally fine. But what most women leave out is what they need to feel emotionally fulfilled in a relationship. A tall, dark man with a full head of hair and never married may seem like an ideal match for you but someone with those attributes may not necessarily help you feel emotionally fulfilled if he doesn't make you feel secure and loved. When you're writing out your list, include physical attributes, how you want a man to treat you in a relationship and most importantly, how you want to feel in that relationship. Don't hold back. Don't compromise. Write down what you're looking for.
Like always attracts like. Thus, if you know what you are looking for, chances are that there's someone out there looking for someone like you.
Exercise:
Set your intentions
Are you expecting to find a lasting relationship? Or are you just looking for a little fun? It’s important to be specific with your intentions. Vague intentions = vague results.
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