While you cannot take away of your fears in life, you can minimize them. Talk about what you expect out of the relationship, and see that it’s on course with what your partner wants. Talk about where you want the relationship to go, and be straightforward about it. Learn to trust. Love can’t be a real thing if there’s no trust invovled. This is a two-way street, and for a relationship to succeed, there has to be a level of trust. Talk about your hopes and dreams. Talk about your fears, and let your partner assure you and give you the confidence needed to gain that trust. It takes a time to develop a relationship. Don’t jump in with both feet unless you and your partner are willing to take that commitment. Otherwise, you are heading for disaster. If it’s your dream but it’s not your partner’s dream, it won’t work. But if you are able to share your dreams and both aim in the same direction, this helps take away a lot of the fears that you may otherwise have expressed through jealousy.
You need to be complete as a human being before you enter a relationship because jealousy isn’t about anyone else. It’s about you. If you enter into a relationship without first having learned to comfortably accept who you are and be happy with that person you have turned out to be, you will never find happiness with someone else. Insecurities in yourself will always surface, no matter how much your partner loves you, because these insecurities are part of who you are. Resolving these problems would take a little bit of time — this means time on your own. Get used to who you are. Like who you are, and don’t always bend to the will of someone else. A partnership has to be a two-way thing. But before you can even enter one, you need to be a whole human being rather than a broken one.
If old relationships have left you broken, you need time to heal and mend. Jealousy can easly creep into your life if you already have fears about who you are. I see it time and time again, and unfortunately, there’s nothing that anyone can do about it. Friends make mistakes, relationships fall apart, but those that fall apart because of jealousy do so because jealous people are incomplete people.
Have you ever heard the expression from one partner to another that he or she isn’t complete without their partner? It’s actually not that true. They may feel that life isn’t as satisfying and may miss their partner terribly if something happens, but if you go into a relationship and need it to the extent that you can’t exist without the other person, the you are not yet ready for a relationship. It’s not fairt to them, and it’s stupidity on your part to believe that another person makes you whole. Learn to cope with your fears. Learn to live with them, and learn to like yourself because everybody has the potential to have fears that are unresolved, but while they are unresolved, life won’t work like it should. That’s when jealousy starts to rear its ugly head.
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