Finding the right romantic partner is often a difficult journey, for several reasons. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of short, abrupt relationships where you or your partner gets bored too soon, and you don't know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past. It's also possible you're not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don't feel confident enough to approach someone. Whatever case may be, it's important to believe that a healthy romantic relationship for you exists in the future.
It's also important to recognize that relationships are never perfect and always require lots of work, compromise, and a willingness to resolve conflict in a positive way. To find and build any relationship worth keeping, you may need to start by reassessing some of your misconceptions about dating and relationships that can prevent you from finding lasting love.
Common Myths About Dating and Looking for Love
Myth: "I can only be happy and fulfilled if I'm in a relationship." or "It's better to have a bad relationship than no relationship."
Reality: While there are health benefits that come with being in a healthy relationship, many people can be just as happy and fulfilled without being part of a couple. Despite the stigma in some social circles that accompanies being single, it's important not to enter a relationship just to fit in. Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. Nothing is as unhealthy and dispiriting as being in a bad relationship。
Myth： "If I don't feel an instant attraction to someone, it's not a relationship."
Reality： This is an important myth to dispel, especially if you have a history of making inappropriate choices. Instant sexual attraction and lasting love do not necessarily go hand-in-hand. Emotions can change and deepen over time, and friends sometimes become lovers—if you give those relationships a chance to develop.
Myth: "Women have different emotions than men."
Reality: Women and men feel similar things but sometimes express their feelings differently, often according to society's conventions. But both men and women experience the same core emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, and joy.
Myth: “True love is constant." or '"Physical attraction fades overtime."
Reality: Love is rarely static, but that doesn't mean love or physical attraction is doomed to fade over time. As we age, both men and women have fewer sexual hormones but emotion often influences passion more than hormones, and sexual passion can become stronger over time.
Myth: I’ll be able to change the things I don’t like about sortie one.
Reality: You can’t change anyone People only change if and when they want to change.
Myth: “I didn't feel close to my parents, so intimacy is always going to be uncomfortable for me."
Reality: It's never too late to change any pattern of behavior. Over time, and with enough effort, you can change the way you think, feel, and act.
Myth: “Disagreements always create problems in a relationship."
Reality: Conflict doesn’t have to be negative or destructive With the right resolution skills, conflict can also be an opportunity for growth in a relationship.
Have you realized your own obstacles to find your lasting love? Be bold enough to recognize the difficulties before you taking effective actions in your soulmate seeking process.
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