What if you praise your partner and show them how you like to be kissed, but they're just not getting your hints? If your partner consistently kisses in a way that kills the romantic mood for you, then you may want to consider talking to them about it.Of course, when bringing up a preference you have it's important to be kind and considerate of your partner's feelings. You want to make the experience of kissing more enjoyable for you without creating an unpleasant experience for your partner.
You may wonder if it is worth the trouble. You do risk hurt feelings, especially if your partner has a fragile ego. If you're dating someone who you don’t see as a long term partner, you may decide to quietly live with an incompatible kissing style for the time that you're together. But if this is someone you're serious about, someone you want around for the long haul, then a lifetime is a long time to feel frustrated when you kiss.
Many partners will view this sort of conversation as no big deal. In fact, they may welcome it as a chance to learn more about your preferences, information they can use to please you even more. On the other hand, a less secure person may get defensive, and view any suggestion that they change something about the way they kiss as a personal attack on their competence. If you've been with your partner for a while then you probably already have a good idea of how they react, but in a new relationship you may have no idea what to expect.
And if a new partner does react negatively to a politely worded request that you make? Well, at least this gives you insight into their personality. If their reaction is part of a huger pattern of similarly insecure behavior it's worth taking note of. Building a strong relationship with anyone whose ego is easily bruised can be challenging. If you do decide that this is the person you want to be with, at least you'll go into the future with your eyes open.
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