We’re often told how carrying some anger to the bed can be bad for us. We’re told that one should let out one’s anger before sleeping, whatever it is about, so that one can have a good night’s sleep.
This can prove to be false often times. If you get mad at every little annoyance and decide to express it, you are jsut increasing your problem tenfold. Instead, learn to keep your anger to yourself when the situation demands it. Raging about small problems doesn’t help. Control your anger through deep breathing, meditation or any other ways.
Let me demonstrate to you how pointless anger is. You are angry with your partner. You go out of the house and slam the door behind you. You are not sure where you are doing, but you just want to get away from him. In the local park, you see a kid who is about to fall into the boating lake. Suddenly all of that anger disappears and instead, you panic and rush to help the kid. That’s how quickly anger can disapear. That’s how quickly you can change anger into something else. Stop letting it control you and learn to control it yourself. If you feel angry, distance yourself from what makes you angry. Say very calmly “Let’s talk about this a little later,” and let yourself calm down.
Anger doesn’t solve anything. It does your mental state no good whatsoever and you need to learn to switch it off. It’s a negative feeling that won’t help you to solve problems. All it can do is make problems worse than they already are. Forget it. It’s not worth it. If someone has done something wrong that has made you angry, let them own the fault. See it as being their weakness and feel sorry for them for being so weak. Then, stand up and walk away. It’s not worth you taking your time being angry with someone else. It really isn’t. Take ownership of things that are your fault but don’t wallow in it. Learn from it and start to do those things right. If you messed up in a relationship, you need to start standing on your own two feet again and learn to actually like yourself before you plunge headlong into a new relationship. Many people go forward and take the baggage of old relationships with them and that really isn’t healthy.
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