As marriage is such a big issue and it involves in so many factors for a couple. It is strongly wise to know more about what marriage is not about. You will keep a reasonable mind to marriage whatever you are going to be married or you’ve already got married or you’re trying to repairing a marriage.
Marriage is NOT...
About making demands or powering over the other. It's not about YOU.
It’s not about being independent.
Is NOT for the faint of heart or to be taken lightly. It takes work but having a life partner is so very worth it.
Marriage is NOT.
•About dominance
•Based soley on money
•Perfection
•Trying to or expecting change in your partner;
•Demanding
•Demeaning
•Prenuptial based
•Jealously
•About blame
Marriage is NOT: something you take for granted.
Continue to move and respect each other, spouse...we all have bad days... but you have one person in your corner that will always stand by you...be that person to your spouse.
It's not about who is better, stronger or makes more money.
It’s not ever ME first.
Marriage is definitely not a 50/50 partnership. It's not always getting your way. It's not all good days and no bad days. Marriage is not jealousy, possessiveness or mis-trust.
It's not about criticizing your spouse but about being positive and encouraging.
It’s not about servitude.
It's not always easy.
Marriage is NOT: finding the perfect person because that's not possible. It's not easy because society/the world has such crazy values. Marriage is not something to give up on.
It’s not something to take for granted.
It is not all romance and flowers.
It’s not just about you.
Marriage is not a game. It's also not something that can be "thrown away" or “exchanged” if you don't like it. Work at your relationship every day and try to look at that person the way you looked at them on your wedding day.
Marriage is not...always sunshine and roses. Love may be patient and kind, but sometimes marriage is dirty, monotonous, ugly, fragile or sick. Marriage really does have ups and downs. You often have to go through a low point to reach new heights on the other side.
Marriage is NOT: easy! Be ready to work hard and not focus on yourself.
It's not something that is easy. It is like building a house. You must have a STRONG foundation on which it can stand the test of time.
It’s not a way out of another situation, a whim, or an irresponsible act.
It's not abusive.
Marriage is not always a beautiful fireworks event. But jt is sharing your life and all of its ups and downs with someone who you love and can't imagine a life without them. Best friends always!
It’s not the “goal” to be achieved.
It’s not going to fix broken parts in your life. (You have to do that yourself, preferably before marriage.)
It is not an unequal partnership.
It is not pretty all the time because of this thing called LIFE. Through all the trials, errors, ups, downs, adversity.-It is not the end all because the joy will far out-weigh those unpleasant tones.
IT IS NOT ALL BLISS. There are blissful moments, wonderful experiences to share, but it takes a lot of patience and hard work to cement the relationship together.
It is NOT something that stays the same, it changes based upon experiences and moments in and out of ypur marriage.
Marriage is not SELFISH. It cannot be a one-sided, a superior partner-based institution. Love does NOT mean giving all authority to one person. It is a shared lifetime experience. Both partners are individuals finding happiness together through mutual respect and honesty. There are many ups but also downs. Marriage can make life bearable and happy or utterly miserable. The right person in a mutually committed relationship makes all the difference.
It is not all one-sided. It can be 50/50 or 80/20 BUT we each need to work on it all the time. If we get lazy and expect the other person to do all the work, then we don't have a marriage. Even when you have children it becomes very hard to put your marriage first. BUT you need to.
Marriage is not trying to change a person into something that YOU think is more desirable, (it won’t happen!)
Marriage is not what you see on soap operas.
Marriage is not for anyone who believes they will be able
to change the other person—that's called divorce.
Marriage is not a trial run... or something you trade up or trade in.
Marriage is not always a bed of roses. It requires daily maintenance. Keep it watered, fed, free of weeds, bugs, etc. Even though there will be storms and thorns, with proper care taking, you will be blessed with a bouquet of happiness.
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