If you consider yourself 'high-maintenance' and have absolutely no problem keeping a man's interest longer than a few weeks then more power to you and keep doing what you're doing. But if you think you may be giving off that ‘high-maintenance’ vibe that turns men off after they really get to know you, read on...
For starters, it is quite possible for a woman to be high quality and worth a man’s investment of time and attention without her having to be high-maintenance. Great guys would jump through hoops to make a high quality woman their own. They'd also jump over fences to avoid ending up with a high-maintenance woman.
Now, because there are many different definitions to the term ‘high-maintenance woman’, I want to clarify what guys generally tend to think when they hear this term. A high-maintenance woman, in the negative sense of the phrase, is basically a woman who requires an unreasonable amount of time, attention, and resources from a man to keep her happy (if she ever is) and therefore, maintain her interest.
Guys who just want some arm candy or who might be overly obsessed with a woman’s physical beauty usually succumb to the wiles of these types of women. But more experienced, mature men who are looking for a great girlfriend or wife who can be content with a lot (the good times) and content with a little (the not-so-good times) will avoid these types of women. If you can only be content with a lot... you are definitely high-maintenance.
Even if you believe you deserve the world from a man, try to understand what high-maintenance looks like through his eyes. The main problem is that keeping a woman like this happy is a twenty-four job. Okay, maybe not a full twenty-four, but that’s how it may feel to a man. If a woman is demanding of her partner a certain level of ‘upkeep’ in lifestyle that she is incapable or unwilling to do for herself, she can be considered ‘high maintenance’. If a man finds himself sacrificing too much time away from his non-relationship commitments or going into debt in order to facilitate the lifestyle demands of a woman, she can be considered ‘high maintenance.’
If you consider being high-maintenance the equivalent to being sophisticated in taste, fashion forward, and high class then what we have is a difference in definition. But the fact remains: If the men you regularly meet consider you high-maintenance in the negative sense of the phrase, you may either want to reevaluate what you actually require from a man to feel fulfilled, or find a way to attract the kinds of men who enjoy the challenges that come with dating a high-maintenance woman.
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