We have to carry baggage when travelling out. But we also have baggage even when we don’t travel in daily life. This passage introduces four ways for you to discover the baggage of the men you’re interested in. It will be of helpful for you in your dating which is a indispensable part in the process of seeking the right person matched for you.
Meet his friends.
Another super way of discovering a man’s baggage is to meet his friends. You will see where he stands among his peers, if they have respect for him, and how much. If all of his friends are players, then guess what?
He is too! If he sides with his friends instead of you, hit the exit—immediately. He may have hit you with a bunch of lies and now his friends are unknowingly revealing them for you. Again, hit the exit.
Meet his family.
This wall not happen until a bit later in the relationship, but you might be able to accidentally run into them. This will show you how he acts around his Mom, which is very telling! If he is a Momma’s Boy, be careful. If he doesn't respect her, be very careful. If she doesn't respect him, he will have some major issues. Family rarely lies, and moms are notorious for putting junior in an uncomfortable position.
My Mom always mentions how my three older sisters would dress me up in their clothing. Embarrassing? Yes, but I can live with it.
If, however, you get, “Jimmy has always had a drinking problem. He got it from his alcoholic father. I’m sure you can clean him up, though.” You should exit now.
Have your friends meet him.
Your close friends will be able to see things you may have missed. He might be checking out other women when you look away, or hitting on your friends! He might pick his nose every time he turns his head, who knows? Your friends will help you and it can be very telling. Your friends can also be the bad guys and hit him with the tough questions you should avoid at this early stage.
Get him drunk.
This might be a little alternative, but it works! Alcohol is like a man’s truth serum. Use it! The key is for you to stay sober. Join him when he is drunk with his friends already. If he is drunk alone, not good. What is he like? Does he want to fight everyone? Does he want to have sex with you and announce it to the world? Does he jump into a dumpster like some idiot?
You want to see a man who is cool when he has had a few too many. Ideally, you want a man who rarely has a few too many. He should be responsible, respectable and show no demons covertly.
By following the steps above, your baggage will smell sweet. His baggage will be strewn all over the place for you to see. Then you can decide if this is your future man or not!
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