Do you have any dating experience? Suppose you're now dating multiple men. You've sifted out the losers and one or two are starting to get your hearting throbbing. Have you been here before and has your heart been broken? How can you be sure? Actually his actions! A man will do anything for sex. He will lie, buy you things, move in with you and even buy you a ring. He will advance the relationship just enough to keep you happy and keep himself happy while using you for sex. A question that really accounts for whether he is the one or not is how he treats you?
How he treats you.
Forget the great looks, the fast car and chiseled body. You just need to ask yourself to confirm how he treats you. Don't fall in love with him unless he treats you the way you want, and deserve to be treated. Take some time and a pen to write down how you want to be treated. Start with this sentence: I will need a man who will...Write down at least 10 sentences to explain exactly how you need to be treated. Examples are as below:
•Show up when he says he will.
•Never cheat on me.
•Be chivalrous and respectful of me.
•Treat my kids and family like they are his own.
•Show me off to his friends and family.
•Put me before his friends.
•Not get addicted to drugs, porn or gambling.
•Honor my career.
•Be romantic—often.
•Communicate his feelings instead of hiding them.
You need to pick at least 3-5 and make these non-negotiable. Tell yourself you will not fall for a man until he proves that he has these 3-5 traits with his actions. If you don't sensibly do this, you will let your emotions take over and they will make the decision for you. Don't let this happen or you will get hurt! Don't let your emotions make decisions for you. Find the balance in a high value man. It often takes you three months to a year to find a keeper. It all depends on how picky you are and how many guys you can date per month.
Cast your net
To confirm quality of a man or how he really treats you, you can design dates to test the man you're interested with. In the process of picking out the one, you're in control. You can put him in different situations and see how he reacts. You should cast your net and fill your bucket with men, throw back the losers and keep a few in your koi pond. Date them, test them, and see if they make the cut. If one flaps his dorsal fin and treats you the way you want to be treated, he is your keeper!
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