How men determine a keeper? - a woman he will commit to, versus the women he dates a few times before he moves on. Let’s call these two types Rest Stops and Keepers.
Rest Stops
I'm not talking about pole dancers or total party girls who just want to get laid, although these types do fit into this category. I'm talking about women who set very few boundaries or have little respect for themselves when it relates to men. A Rest Stop might be independent and attractive but when it comes to a guy, she has no clue.
The Rest Stop says “Yes” to men. She doesn't know what type of guy she wants, or even what she wants out in her life with a man. She just knows she wants to be happy, maybe get married and have some kids. She is pretty much ready to have sex whenever a man shows interest. She feels if she says no, then the guy will move on to another woman. The funny thing is he will move on eventually, leaving a Rest Stop far behind.
This is interesting to me because you women are so choosey with so many things: the clothes you wear, your hair stylist and, of course, your shoes. But men?
If you are always being chosen and not choosing guys, how are you going find love? By accident? Maybe the guy who chooses you, without you giving any resistance, will happen to be a great guy? I doubt it.
This is not a far out example. Many women fit into this category and they don’t even realize it. Rest Stops have no idea specifically what they want in a guy. Consequently, they sleep with men too early and they say yes to the date no matter where it is or how soon it comes up. This doesn't necessarily make them sluts, they just have low self-esteem and, therefore, limited choices when it comes to men.
Many men love this type of woman, but only for a few weeks. There is no real challenge here. Any guy can have the Rest Stop, so there is no competition to get her. Her time is not valuable and she probably has limited career aspirations. She is not attractive because she is not a challenge and she has no boundaries.
Keepers
I can spot keepers right out of the gate because I’m a dating coach. But for most men, they start noticing a Keeper when she starts talking. Keepers wield power. A Keeper knows what she wants in a man. Her time is valuable and the game is a joke to her.
Her body language screams Keeper also. She controls the dance. Guys will walk up to her and she will be very polite and even appreciate the advance, but right off the bat, she decides a guy’s fate. She chooses men - she is not chosen. Pick up artists need not apply!
The Keeper has boundaries, and she holds firm to them. She will not hand over her phone number easily and she will nicely exit a situation where a wet kitten is trying to get into her pants It’s actually fun to witness a PUA around a Keeper. She doesn’t show her cleavage like other girls also do - not at this stage.
The Keeper’s time is valuable. She has things she is passionate about, making her time valuable by default. Why would she date some loser when she can be with men of quality she sees on a daily basis.
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