The first message is critical. The primary objective of the first message is to get her to read your profile simple as that. You don't want to be investing too much in your first message. Don't brag about things like you have Ferrari etc. and nothing sexually explicit.
If a homeless guy comes up to you and asks you for $10 would you give him the moneys?Most likely you won't be so willing but if the same homeiess man was to cheer you up plays an instrument and sings for you or give you a free car wash or to offers to polish your shoes; he's more likely to get little bit more compliance from you. It may not be a perfect: example, but the lesson is you need to give before you ask. Similarly, in online dating, you need to add value before you ask for compliance;in fact in any interaction with women in general. Value offering text is simply you give value to a girl without expecting anything in return. You don't want anything from her you are not a validating seeking addict which is one of the worst frames to come from.
Let’s talk about the types of messages to avoid first.
1.Generic Messages- Run away from sending generic such as 'liow was your weekend" "how you been” etc. these types of messages does not get girls attention. They have heard these words thousands and one time.
2.Overly Sexual- Also you see messages from guys such as "Hi sexy you look, great baby, let's get married what do you think” or “hi babe want to get dirty" these types of messages are just too forward.
3.Novel - long paragraphs message after you’ve spent your last half an hour reading her profile and crafting your messages. You’ve spent significant time and effort into it, and you don’t even know if she's going to respond to your message heck it could be she is no longer active.
For your first message, make a statement rather than asking for a question. It's not an absolute rule that you should never ask a question in your first message, but comments work a lot better. Especially if you are a beginner stick with a statement first which tends to work better most times, and I want to speed up your learning process and get the foot in the door get as many dates as possible and then you can fool around with other strategies later if you like. You don't have to send her the most wittiest or the funniest lines you ever heard. Don't get paranoid at this stage you can just use the messages from the examples given through-out this book. Use your sense of humor, this is your time to be creative. You could even modify popular quotes from the movies, books for example and add your humor to it or just copy the lines that work with your friends, the internet, etc. As the most famous painter who ever lived, Pablo Picasso said：good artist copy artist great steal”. Feel free to take these:)
•I just bought a cool book from Barnes and Nobels can't wait to read ：)
•Today's National Cereal Day lets celebrate by wak- ing up together at my place tomorrow. iHi. I couJdn't resist to teii you that if Ihad the emotional maturity for a relationship, you'd totally be top of my list.
•Sun is shining eating ice cream in the pool Life good.
•A Just finished salting my chips;) how is dork doing.
•I could hold on to you tighter than any balding man with a ponytail holds on to his youth.
•Stop stripping inside my head.
•I’d like to snuggle your brains out.
•I’m not fussy to go out with anyone on Tinder as long as they say we met on OkCupid.
•Hey, little trouble maker;)
•Looking forward to getting to know you and your flaws better.
•Hey, something told me you might be something more than just a beautiful face. I could be wrong you could probably just be a big dork;)
You're probably getting a hundred messages a day from a guy’s saying let's hang out any way I am a little bit different than that if you are pretty adventurous and alive then let's talk.
You can see from these texts that they are quite polarizing and non-needy. You can get a positive response and also be prepared to get nasty mean messages. As long as she is replying back, that's a good signal. We can treat all mean, nasty words as a shit test. Way to pass the shit test is to miss interrupt it. For example, she might say “not interested” misinterpret it into not yet. Don't make a mistake of following up with the question on the same message to pass a shit test. Just pass the shit test that's it. Remember the objective of the first message is just to get a response.
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