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One of the most interesting things about the Drama Queen is that in most cases, a woman might not want to realize that these falls into this category. This is when ex-boyfriends, close friends, and even family refer to her as “The Drama Queen”.
A Drama Queen in denial
When she refuses to consider if their bestowed title for her is justified or not, she is a Drama Queen in denial.
The Drama Queen in denial uses self-deception to maintain a positive self-image about herself. In other words, she doesn’t know what she is because she has chosen, albeit subconsciously, to explain away her behavior as nothing more than ‘assertiveness’ or ‘firmness of wants.’ However, being a Drama Queen is less about assertiveness and more about selfishness and a lack of emotional self-control. The Drama Queen in denial insists that she’s reasonable. She honestly believes that she’s just out-spoken about her needs and that people think she’s a “Drama Queen” because she stands up for herself. The Drama Queen in denial, if she were honest, would also admit that her demandingness and irrational display of emotion is merely a product of her earnest desire to be happy. In other words, she absolutely MUST get her way.
The Drama Queen in denial may not realize that there’s a major conflict with what she believes and how she wants to be perceived by others. It’s actually impossible to be both reasonable and to have a strong need to always get your way. Being reasonable means that you can be reasoned with and that you’re willing to sacrifice, compromise, or concede in order to make room for the needs, wants and ideas of others.
Aside every Drama Queen is an exhausted man
Unfortunately, aside every Drama Queen is an exhausted man - usually one with the patience of a saint or a self-soothing addiction that grants him a “vacation from the crazy.” And while every man has a different threshold for what he’s willing to deal with when it comes with loving a woman, most men will admit that they’d rather chew off their own foot than get stuck in a relationship with a Drama Queen.
A Drama Queen will use over-the-top arguments, tears, and antagonizing behavior with our group of friends as weapons to help her get her way. And let me tell you... it was exhausting.
No one is perfect, and indeed a Drama Queen might still be able to attract men into her life, but they won’t be the kinds of high quality men. Instead of a high-quality man, she’ll attract men that suffer from personal issues that are likely to complement those that she struggles with. This makes for a very needy, chaotic and unstable relationship. High-quality men are those who have figured out how to keep these women at arm’s length, and they ensure that their experiences with such women are either non-existent or kept to an absolute minimum.
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