A woman with a natural inclination to instigate and relish drama in all its various forms can only mean one thing: She’s a bona fid “Drama Queen.” This particular type of woman usually falls into one of two categories, namely, women who KNOW that they’re Drama Queens and who wear the title proudly, and women who don’t know that they’re Drama Queens and who don’t know that they’re Drama Queens and who don’t understand why they have so much difficulty dealing with men (men who have a low tolerence for drama at least).
Now, if you wear the title proudly but you’re humble enough to admit that it might be having a negative effect on your relationships with men, I encourage you to read this point with an open mind. The same applies if you think you may belong to the second group, the women who don’t know that they’re Drama Queens.
To be fair, it should be mentioned that the Drama Queen is an extreme personality. Just because you struggle with certain insecurities or you might be prone to emotional outbursts in a handful of extreme situations it does not mean that you’re a Drama Queen. And since the term “Drama Queen” is usually thrown about by men to represent any kind of difficulty female behavior (it’s true...I confess), I think we should properly define what being a Drama Queen really means.
When used in the female specific context (meaning we’re not talking about a Drama King), the Drama Queen is a woman who responds to situations irrationally and melodramatically. She habitually makes a mountain out of a molehill, and magically turns the unimportant into a major issue. A woman like this is usually unreasonable, overly critical, and exceptionally difficult to deal with when it comes to managing relationship conflicts. Her craving to be the center of attention is insatiable, and she’s mastered the art of blowing things out of proportion. She feels threatened in steady environments and is usually tempted to “rock the boat” the minute things get too stable in a relationship.
Here’s what some of the Drama Queen’s behaviors look like to a man (and her honest friends):
*She manipulates those around her in order to create conflict that has her at the center of it all.
*She’s never satisfied, nor can she be easily appeased. Her placation, if possible to attain, usually comes at great cost to someone else.
*She gossips ceaselessly.
*She uses urgent problems to invite attention and gain sympathy.
*Mistakes made by others at the expense are blown out of proportion, and she’d rather give the encroacher a piece of her mind than her mercy.
*In the elaborate tales of life, she’s always the victim.
*She manhandles social situations to bring the spotlight back on herself. (Think of the person who shouts out something random and self-focused when the groups is clearly discussing something or someone else.)
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