One thing that consistently holds men back is that they come across as just another typical dude or bro. Dime a dozen. We’re pressured most of our lives to go with the flow, go along with what our friends like and just agree with what those around us think. However, if you want to be attractive, you had better learn to develop your character. Attractive men usually have their own special character.
Going with the flow, going along with what our friends like or just agreeing with what around us think is unattractive behavior because it demonstrates a lack of investment in your own interests, passions and desires. Attractive men are polarizing and uninhibited. Attractive men make their opinions known. They’ve had unique experiences and ideas. They’ve tried things many people haven’t tried, done things many people haven’t done, and share their ideas openly and freely.
Put another way, an attractive man with depth and character is a man who has opinions and openly expresses those opinions.
When it comes to deciding what one likes and doesn’t like, most men have very lukewarm reactions one way or the other.
“Yeah, that movie’s awesome,” or “yeah, I like that one,” or “No, I don’t like that show.” It really goes beyond that. There’s no sharing of why one prefers one type of music over another, one movie over another, one author over another. And there’s no connection to the emotions driving that preference.
For instance, a random Joe may say, “I really liked Terminator. It was pretty cool.”
A more interesting person may say, “Terminator was great. But what’s more interesting to me is that it was the first movie I can remember in which you ended up rooting for the villain.”
There’s nothing wrong with being amiable and enjoying similar things to your friends. But one thing that will always make you stand out, particularly to women, is if you’ve not only expanded your horizons, but you’ve also made your own decisions about your personal tastes, your experiences, and what you think about various topics.
Let’s be real, out of 10 men the typical single woman meets, 9 of them are into the following things: sports, comedy movies, rock and/or hiphop music, and other generic guy activities. Again, nothing wrong with this, but what’s going to make you stick out?
You should shape yourself into a man with taste, a man with opinions, and a man who can explain exactly why he likes or dislikes everything from 70s Motown records to German films to 19th century literature to impressionistic art. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to tell you to go take a bunch of art classes or whatever. You don’t need to be a super-intellectual snob. This is about developing your own opinions and enriching your life.
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