We're pressured most of our lives to go with the flow, go along with what
our friends like and just agree with what those around us think.
As we’ve
discussed, this is unattractive behavior because it demonstrates a lack of
investment in your own interests, passions, and desires. Attractive men are
polarizing and uninhibited. Attractive men make their opinions known. They've
had unique experiences and ideas. They've tried things many people haven't
tried, done things many people haven’t done, and share their ideas openly and
freely.
Put another way, an attractive man with depth and character is a man who has opinions and openly expresses those opinions. When it comes to deciding what one likes and doesn't like, most men have very lukewarm reactions one way or the other.“Yeah, that movie's awesome” or, “Yeah, I like that one” or , “No, I don’t like that show.” It rarely goes beyond that. There's no sharing of why one prefers one type of music over another, one movie over another, one author over another. And there’s no connection to the emotions driving that preference. For instance, a random Joe may say, “I really liked Terminator. It was pretty cool.”
A more interesting person may say, “Terminator was great. But what’s
more interesting to me is that it was the first movie I can remember in which
you ended up rooting for the villain.”
There’s nothing wrong with being amiable and enjoying similar things to your friends. But one thing that will always make you stand out, particularly to women, is if you’ve not only expanded your horizons, but you’ve also made your own decisions about your personal tastes, your experiences, and what you think about various topics.
Let’s be real, out of 10 men the typical single woman meets, 9 of them are into the following things: sports, comedy movies, rock and/or hip-hop music, and other generic guy activities. Again, nothing wrong with this, but what's going to make you stick out?
You should shape yourself into a man with taste, a man with opinions, and a man who can explain exactly why he likes or dislikes everything from 70s Motown records to German films to 19th-century literature to impressionistic art. You don’t need to be a super-intellectual snob. This is about developing your own opinions and enriching your life.
Too many men let their opinions be dictated by pop culture and their group of
guy friends.
“Oh dude, Will Farrell is soooo funny.”
“The new Batman movie
is awesome.”
Few men ever stop and actually think critically about why they like certain things, why certain forms of pop culture are popular and others are not. Few have the curiosity to look into new art forms or hobbies and figure out how they feel about them.
Here are some concepts to keep in mind as you go through your life
experiencing:
1. Assume everything has a form of value; it’s your job to find
it. Nothing is stupider than to be prejudiced against a genre of music or type
of movie for no other reason than because of some stereotype or preconceived
notion about it.
2. When expanding your horizons; start with what's generally considered the
best.
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