When it comes to honest, most people have the sense of some honest behaviors of honesty but few are familiar with the definition. Webster defines honest as "1)that does not steal, cheat or lie; upright or trustworty' 2) got by fair means, not by stealing, cheating or lying; 3) sincere or genuine; 4) frank and open". To be honest with ourselves and our own life,there are three ways we can be honest with. The three ways are: 1) living based on our values; 2) becoming comfortable with our intentions; and 3) by expressing our sexuality freely.The first way of expressing our truth involves developing a lifestyle that makes us happy. The second way of expressing truth is by being courageous and fighting through our fears and anxieties. And the third way of expressing truth is by communicating well and being uninhibited in our sexuality.To simply summarize, those three aspects can be expressed in another three words: lifestyle, courage and communication respectively.
Choosing to not live a lifestyle based on our values and interests is only being dishonest with ourselves. It reflects a higher investment in others than in oneself. Therefore, it is unattractive. Not acting on our desires and asserting ourselves where appropriate is showing more investment in others than ourselves. It is therefore unattractive. And not communicating our thoughts, feelings, and desires freely and clearly also demonstrates more investment in others than in ourselves. This is also unattractive.
Those three aspects can be interpreted in the following sentences:
1.Creating an attractive and enriching lifestyle.
2.Overcoming your fears and anxiety around socializing, intimacy and sexuality.
3.Mastering the expression of your emotions and communicating fluidly.
They are the three ways in which a man can become more vulnerable and less needy. Improving each of the three ways will certainly improve you. Moreover, each of the Three Fundamentals can be worked on independently, but as we’ll see later, improving one of the three often indirectly benefits the other two and vice-versa.
The only way to improve each of these fundamentals is by drilling deeper into your vulnerability for each one of them.So one way to think about it is that the fundamentals are the categories in which you can improve yoru reuslts with women, and expressing your vulnerability and seeking truth is the process in which you improve in the categories.
Comment