In a relationship, it is important to communicate with our partner. Perhaps at this stage, you think that your spouse or partner should know everything about you- They have been with you long enough they should know what makes you tick. However, this isn't possible.
Think about it this way, they have the responsibility of taking care of their emotions, preferences, and needs. Just like you, they have things in their life that annoy them, frustrate them, or fill them with joy. As wonderful as it could be, your partner is not a mind reader. Even if the way you are feeling about something seems crystal clear, it's still important to talk about it. If they are on the same page as you, great. If they were completely blindsided, it's good that you spoke up. If you have children or other responsibilities, these feelings and opinions could be even more buried, due to necessity. Regardless, you must make an effort to take time to communicate. If you are unhappy and suffering, everyone else suffers too.
It’s also possible that your needs and preferences have changed since the beginning of your relationship. Maybe at first you were looking for someone who could take you on fun dates or would spend time with you when it was convenient for both of your schedules. Now that the relationship is older, maybe you are looking for sornething more. Are you ready to make your relationship more serious? Do you need your partner or spouse to get a higher paying job so that they can take some of the burden of bills from you? You have to decide what it is that you need to keep you happy. This could include points made in previous sections of this chapter. Are you feeling stifled? Do you have dreams that you want to fulfill? Think about it; write them down, and find a way to organize what you desire out of your life and out of your relationship. Once you can come to terms with your stance on these issues, you can share them with your partner.
Arguments can be healthy: Bottling up your emotions can put pressure on you and can become too much if you keep them to yourself for too long. Not only that, but what couple truly agrees on everything all of the time? A relationship requires compromise, and it gives and takes. By no means should you or your partner be totally submissive to the other, but you should both be willing to make changes. This is why you need to communicate how you feel even if it seems foolish. Maybe you won't agree, maybe you will argue with each other, but it's important to be up front with each other. By no means is it okay to be condescending or disrespectful to your partner but isn’t it better to work things out between you? Talking about your feelings is a much better alternative to losing your relationship. You never know, your spouse or partner may be feeling the same way.
A great thing about discussing parts of your relationship is that they can bring you closer together. Once you tell your partner what you desire in the relationship, they may also share their own needs and preferences that you can be mindful of. You are also making an effort to strengthen the bond that you have. You are showing each other that you love each other and are willing to make things work. If your significant other sees that you love them, despite shortcomings or frustrations, they are likely to want to do the same for you. Also, if you show your partner that you care about yourself as much as you care about them, they may follow your example and care for themselves also Both of you can then be open, happy, and less stressed out. When you know what you want, everyone wins.
When you are in a relationship or marriage for a long time, you have the tendency to keep your needs or even your opinions to yourself. Sometimes you might hold everything inside, so that you don’ upset your spouse or partner. Maybe there are other commitments or responsibilities in your life that have pushed your feelings into the background. To show love for yourself, you have, to be honest about how you feel about the relationship, induding your frustrations. When you acknowledge your frustrations and communicate them to your partner or spouse in a respectful and constructive manner, you are more open to your partner. Acknowledging your emotions is not only a sign of self- love, but it will also help you improve communication with your partner.
It is important to remember that you cannot fully love and accept your partner if you do not fully love and accept yourself first. When you are unhappy with yourself, it is often easier to be unhappy with your partner. When you love yourself, you become a happy person who has a lot to offer in a relationship. You have less emotional issues and baggage. Don't worry about being a nuisance, and do not assume that your significant other doesn't care. They might be waiting for you to tell them how you feel or they might have no idea that you are suffering on the inside. When you reclaim your identity by practicing self-love, it becomes easier for you to fall in love with your partner once again.
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