If you are reading this passage, chances are, you feel that you are losing the passion and strong affection you once had with your spouse or your partner. If you are reading this book, it is most likely that you want to save the relationship that was once exciting, passionate, and loving. You are losing hope that you can still have and bring back the “spark” in the relationship. You still believe the relationship can be saved.
You could remember how the relationship felt when it was new. You extremely adored each other. You could talk and discuss just about anything. You would frequently go out together and you would do many fun and enjoyable activities together, you used to hold hands and do cheesy things. You used to call each other a lot or send loving messages. You said kind words and shared a few laughs everyday. You gave romantic things such as a loving messages, flowers, gifts, poems, and even letters. You were playful with each other. Your relationship is filled with care, respect, and attraction. The sex was amazing. You touched a lot and made love often. And now you wonder, what happened? How did a relationship so great become so boring? How can a relationship that was once filled with genuine love and respect only exist because of mere tolerance?
Maybe it is because you already have kids and the children have become the priority. Maybe the love has faded because of the simple reason that you are already tired of each other. Falling in love is splendid and glorious, however, making love last for a lifetime is really challenging.
Before we discuss the ways in how you could fall in love with your partner again, it is important to understand why your love is fading. Here are the common reasons why it happens：
Lack Of Boundaries
Most people who fall out of love often say, “I do not know myself anymore.” Merged identity is often the reason why the passion and love fades in a relationship. When you spend a lot of time with someone, you could sometimes feel you have lost your identity and individuality. When you first fell in love, you had healthy bouridaries that both of you were careful not to cross. However, as time goes by; and you make decisions like living together and having kids, these boundaries disappear. Add the responsibilities of having a job, bills, and taking care of your family and it's easy to feel like the person you were has faded away. You do not have sufficient quality time apart to become more true to who you really are and what makes you happy as an individual.
Lack Of Communication
Many people fall out of love because of the lack of healthy communication. Conflicts are often unresolved. These couples no longer affirm their love and appreciation toward their spouse. Couples who have been together for a long time often do not express their needs to their partners. These couples often refuse to discuss serious relationship problems. This is the reason why frustrations pile up. When the negativity adds up, resentment can cause a relationship to become strained and uncomfortable. Communication is a powerful component of a good relationship and it is a fact that lack of sufficient communication between partners can dissolve a relationship.
Couples Tend To Let Go Of Themselves Mentally And Physically
There will be a time when you reach a specific level of comfort in your relationship. When this happens, you often forget to take care of yourself and your needs. You are no longer conscious about how you look. You may have quit exercising or you formed unhealthy habits such as drinking too much alcohol or watching too much television. You also tend to stop doing things that mentally stimulate you. You stopped reading or taking advanced classes. When this happens, the physical and mental attraction you once had when you were just starting the relationship will eventually fade.
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