Just like a company needs a leader, a relationship also does. Learning to be a loving leader in your relationship involves in a lot of practices and a good understanding of balance to be maintained.Those of practice include finding and learning to balance different aspects in life,making future plans,etc. Leadship has already become a professional subject as if you lead too aggresively you can come across as overbearing and if you lead too softly you will seem unable to lead with your weak masculine energy.
1)A loving leader can find balance between firmness and kindness
One of the keys to being a Loving Leader is to always lead with firmness and kindness, You aren’t simply leading to be seen as a leader, you are encouraging her to do things that you know will help her grow in a proper manner rather than too firmly or too kindly.
What dose "being too firm" look like?
1.Telling her to lose weight
2.Motivating her with intense challenges
3.Demanding that she do a favor for you (make you food, do the laundry, etc.)
What does "being too kind" look like?
1.Asking her what she wants to do for all of your date plans (instead of planning something yourself)
2.Never having preferences for what the two of you have for dinner
3.Never initiating sex because you only want to do it when she is the one who is really in the mood
What does "keeping the right balance" look like?
1.Physically leading her to her chair in a restaurant
2.Encouraging her to try a new activity that she once thought was out of her comfort
3.Encouraging a discussion on something in her life that makes her feel vulnerable (her body, her career, or her relationship with her parents)
Masculine energy is embodied by characteristics such as directionality and leadership.This allow you to feel safe enough to try some challenging activities. If she tries and then succeeds, she'll trust you more.
Feminine energy is like a tornado while masculine energy is like a giant rock on the ground. The ever-changing, fluid style of the tornado takes comfort in knowing that there is something as heavy and consistent as the rock.Men are the rock his women takes solace in. That's why she feel safe with your leadership ability. Consistency hereby doesn't mean the consistent externalities of your life, such as your fitness level, your current job or your financial status. Instead, it means the consistency in your character, values and what kind of life experience she is able to have whenever she is around you.
Moreover, being a leading lover doesn't have to direct the general big isssue but little things count just as much. For example, you can plan dates, plan an outgoing activity, give her suggestions at a tourist resort when she's never been before.Or you can cook her favorite dish for her, that will make her quite happy.
2) A loving leader always ready to make future plans
If a man is committed to a woman, you have to talk about your future with her. You need be afraid to talk about future with her because you needn't be 100% certain of your future as nothing is certain in our life. Talking and visioning future together with her will build her trust and safety in you.
By making and verbalizing plans together for the future, you show that you have the strength to not need to be the only one who has input. You are showing the strength of leading, while maintaining the sensitivity of flexibility.
You can show that you're committed her if you take the initiative to make plans together with her.She will trust you more or even admire you because they think that you've already thought about a future together. This is very important because women need trust, connection and intimacy in order to be fully relaxed and be opened up within the relationship.
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