Just as the old saying "Treat others you would like to be treated" goes, you shall be kind to your partner as you would like to be kind by your partner. Kindness acts just like the oil that makes the engine of our world move more smoothly and with less friction. It’s contagious. Always choose kindness instead of anger and hatred. Be nice and supportive to your partner, if your partner comes back home later because he/she had a long meeting, do not nag or become annoyed. Show kindness first instead. Say something like, “We’ve saved your favorite dish for you as you may be hungry because of that long meeting.” Also important, watch your tone of saying when you’re saying something. Most people hate or fight not because of the words that were said, but how those words were said.
However, when we're under stress and frustration, it's very easy for us to forget being kind and lash out at our partner. Whenever it is truly their fault or you are taking out the anger you feel because of anyelse reasons, try your best to calm down first before letting out of the anger. Just exchange a perspective, how would you feel if someone is yelling to you? No one likes getting yelled at and you must think of that whenever you're angry with your spouse or partner.
As conflicts and arguments are very common in daily life, there maybe times when being kind is difficult. Sometimes you may be unhappy if your partner doesn't approve of anything. Maybe they just can't understand why you need to do it. It's possible that they feel they are important than whatever occupies your time. If they are bitter and nasty towards you, you can feel like you're immediately equal spiteful to them. Don’t do it. Take the high road. Talk to your partner, find out why they are truly upset and then see if there is a compromise that can be made. It’s not necessarily about each of you getting your own way, but meeting somewhere in the middle. This shows that you are listening to you partner's opinion, while not giving up your own. Even more important is the fact that you came to this conclusion while being kind. A lot can be compromised and accomplished when you aren’t vindictive.
As communication is a mutual action involves in both of you, when you are kind to your spouse or partner, it's contagious. They will want to do the same for you even when they might be mad or frustrated with you. When you want to vent about something that is bothering you,they will listen. Showing each other kindness will let each other know that you care. Think of how you used to act when you and your significant other first got together. You would never have dreamt of hurting their feelings. This kind of solid foundation should never change.
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