Falling deeper in love and experiencing moving sexual intimacy demands that lovers have three-dimentional intimacy—to bring body, soul, and spirit together. In the Garden of Eden, these three parts (of God's image in us) were comfortably joined, not different and distinct. We have distorted the whole, especially pushing the body into being a separate object.
Body and soul. Sit across from each other nude and gently place a hand over each other's heart, and in the quiet, feel life pulsing in the body of the one you love. Close your eyes and sense the closeness that is being allowed by a person who needs and loves you. Place a hand on a breast or testicles but remember that this isn't an erotic object—this is your lover's tender body (and heart) that he or she chooses to share only with you.
Body, soul, and spirit. Look deeply into the window of the soul, the eyes, and communicate love with no words spoken. Eye-to-eye sex is special and it doesn't have to be with constant eye contact. It is a state of mind and heart that makes our lover truly present with us. Snuggling into each other's emotional and physical space turns distance into a warm tenderness. Whether eye to eye, voice to ear, or hand to face, we are together creating sensual pleasure and erotic arousal. This is not a sex thing; this is an intimacy thing. It can be done in private or in candlelight at a favorite restaurant.
Soul and spirit. Affirm verbally that you are completed in wonderful inexplicable ways by this spiritual and physical union: “I need to be needed and long for completion. Holding you close fills me up in some deep, real way.” Our lover cannot read our mind. It is remarkable how much love and tenderness we hide inside ourselves, which if we would let out would rejoice the romantic soul of our mate. Write down and practice some of these affirmation statements: “When I hug you for a minute or more, the world disappears"; “ I don’t know why you adore me, but I am glad God gave you to me”; or “When you are inside me and hold me tight, I feel we blend into a oneness lean only feel but can't describe."
We must be convinced to our core that falling deeper in love does not depend on the unpredictable, transient whims of chemistry. Rather, romantic love can be reignited with thoughtful, self-sacrificing strategies. Put into practice wasting time together, being nice, and passionately experiencing three-dimensional lovemaking.
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