A few ground rules shall be strengthened. When you flirt, you’re telling your husband, “I’m interested. I find you attractive. I want you.” So if you do start adding flirting into your relationship, you're going to have to make sure you add some sex in there, too, or else your guy is going to be getting very mixed messages (and he'll be very frustrated).
Does flirting mean that you have to follow through each and every time? No, not necessarily. But allow me to let you in on a little insight. Men don't just want sex because it physically feels good. They want to feel wanted. Flirting is one of those ways that they feel Wanted. And if it’s followed up by regular and frequent sex-say a few times a week-most guys won’t mind if you don’t have sex one night, even if you did flirt. When men get regular and frequent sex, they become much more secure and confident in the fact that we love them.
One of the reasons that men often seem desperate for sex is because they're desperate to know that they actually are desired. It’s not only the physical release they need; it’s that emotional and even spiritual validation that says, “I value and want you.” When they’ve getting that from you regularly, then you have a lot more room to play, and kiss, and flirt, without necessarily having to make love right then and there. When you're not making love with your husband frequently and regularly, though, he’ll be much less able to let these little things go.
So if you’re thinking to yourself, “every time I kiss my husband he wants it to go somewhere” or ''every time I flirt he wants something else”, that may be because your husband is insecure about whether you really want him, because sex is infrequent, or perhaps because you never initiate
going to talk more this month about how to get you more in the mood and how to make it more fun and less stressful for you so that you do desire sex more often. But for right now, here's the message: flirting is a fun way to play with your husband, to boost your own libido, to get you thinking along those lines, and to make your husband feel wanted. And if it's combined with regular sex, you'll feel much more confident in your relationship if you throw in some of these fun ideas!
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