Just as playing together helps you laugh together, flirting helps you to laugh-and binds you together because you share a relationship with your spouse that is totally unique.
Flirting is a ton of fun, but instead of thinking of flirting as saying to her, 'let’s have sex!", think of flirting as a way to communicate to her, “I love you. I value you. I think you’re a ton of fun." Think of it as something that will make you giggle together, rather than necessarily as a prelude for something right away. It's an extension of the affection exercise we did yesterday, just turned up a notch.
I know that can be a tall order, but many women feel objectified: he only wants me for one thing. But taking flirting out of a marriage entirely then takes a lot of the fun out! So add affection, add lots of touch, and add lots of giggles. And then take your cues from her. If she gets racier, feel free to turn up the notch,too!
Sprinkle these ideas into your next few days, until they become natural. And think of some of your own! Throw yourself into them. Have fun with them. Get in a truly flirty frame of mind, and you may find that your own libido goes up because the fun quotient in your marriage goes up.
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