Guys don't usually have as much trouble feeling physical pleasure from sex as women do. But that doesn’t mean that there aren't small changes that we can make to help him feel even more amazing! So ladies, here are a few tips to make sex extra-special for him：
1. Move
Too often we women can fall into the trap of thinking that what really matters to a guy is sexual release. He needs his orgasm, and then he's fine. But remember that to a man, sexuality is wrapped up into his whole identity. And it isn't just sexual release that he needs; it’s the feeling of acceptance and love that he gets from knowing that his wife actually wants to make love to him. She doesn’t just “let” him; she wants him.
For a guy to feel great, then, you just need to show him that you are enjoying this, too! So much of his pleasure is wrapped up in the idea that he can give you pleasure—and that you are enjoying it.
So don't just lie there. Move! Run your hands over his back. Try a new position. Respond to him thrusting by moving your hips. Just show that you’re into it, too.
2. Vocalize
And don't just move; moan. Or talk. Or say something! Guys love hearing feedback that what they're doing feels good.
Remember His Erogenous Zones
Women have lots of sensitive areas. We tend to focus on more areas of a woman's body during sex than on a man's, because she needs the attention to get aroused during foreplay. But in so doing we can shortchange the guys. Contrary to common practice, they actually do have more than one erogenous zone. Many men find their nipples sensitive, and their necks, and earlobes, or behind their knees. So pay attention to other parts of his body, too, especially his ears and neck when you're actually making love. This will make it more intimate and intense for him.
3. Squeeze him
While the ego boost of showing him you're enjoying it is awesome, a few physical things can send him to ecstasy as well. One of the most pleasurable things that you can do is to squeeze him while he’s inside you, using your Kegel muscles. Those are the muscles of your pelvic floor, which can open and contract your vagina. You may not have noticed them before, but if you stop the flow of urine when you’re peeing, you'll be activating the same muscles.
When you're making love, then, just do that same movement and squeeze him. You can hold the squeeze, or, if your muscles are strong, you can squeeze rhythmically to him thrusting. To get used to the idea at first, have him enter you but then stay still, and you can practice trying to squeeze and relax, squeeze and relax, and see if he notices the difference.
4. Let him go deeper
Another thing that's especially pleasurable is to find a position that lets him thrust even more deeply. This isn't something to try when you're just getting used to making love, or when you're sore. But if you’re ready, wrap your legs around his back, or even rest your feet on his shoulders (if you're flexible enough).
Now, guys, if she’s doing this, she's making herself really vulnerable (which, of course, is part of what is making it exciting). Treat her well, and make sure that she isn't uncomfortable. Go slowly at first!
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