God has freely given you many natural ways to enhance your lovemaking. Discover them along with your mate. These methods involve in time-related factors and skill-repated factors in ehancing sex life quality.
Taking Time and Focusing on the Moment
Take time to enjoy each other sexually. Taking more time increases loveplay and, in a fun way, forces you into being more creative. One of the building blocks of a great sex life is taking sufficient time to enjoy each other, and both enjoy the extra attention and playfulness.
Taking time is a marvelous aphrodisiac because it alnatural wayslows a couple to create an ambiance and be more imaginatively sensual. If ten minutes of mood-setting and loveplay enhance sensuality, forty minutes may do four times as much intimacy- Time gives you the luxury of thinking about and enjoying sexuality in old and new ways.
Another aphrodisiac with time is focusing in and enjoying truly being present with your mate. It isn't just time, but tuning in to the erotic and the three-dimensional love relationship while you have the time. There is an art, which wives have a more difficult time practicing, of leaving distractions and concerns while you enjoy this moment with your lover. You must learn to think, This thirty minutes is totally for us and will be sacredly spent sexually connecting.
Initiative and Frequency Versus Inertia
Vacations are an interesting time of discovering natural aphrodisiacs. On vacation couples expect to make love. Away from their many distractions, mates suddenly think about lovemaking and are unexpectedly frisky. They often make a mental note of things they have been avoiding in enhancing their sex lives and want to be sure to include while away. They take props, such as sexy outfits and books like this one. The mind and attitude are more sexually specific and expectant than vvhen at home. Mates take time to hold hands and have connecting conversations, and they create initiative that is absent in the busyness of life.
So many things in life have a way of snowballing. The more you do them, the easier they become and the more you want to do them—like a snowball rolling downhill and picking up more snow as it goes. It is like the law of inertia, which states that a body in motion tends to stay in motion and a body at rest tends to stay at rest. If sex has become awkward or if it has been placed on the back burner, mates will consciously have to get the lovemaking started again.
A sex life in motion tends to pick up speed, and the couple that makes love once a month will soon be making love once every three months.
Physical Fitness, Rest, and Affection
Good health and physical fitness are marvelous aphrodisiacs. Being rested vitalizes attitudes and gives added capacity for sex. Getting the body in shape with long walks or other forms of exercise enhances sex. Making vigorous love affix your sense of physical well-being.
Rest and physical closeness bave a marvelous effect on mind and heart. Each of us has a skin hunger that is more a need for affirmation and comfort than erotic interaction. Tuning out the world and making time for relaxed touching may be tough in the busyness of life but is a great aphrodisiac. Somehow couples need to create their own insulated islands where they can retreat for long hugs as well as passionate lovemaking. You may need to deal with your environment better so it can encourage you in being rested and affectionate.
Adventure, Variety, and Uninhibited Feelings
God has created us with a desire for variety and adventure. Uninhibited and varied sex is arousing. Wives wearing see- through lingerie or the tiusband buying a special CD may sexually excite both partners. You may want to try some new positions. Or the wife may allow the husband to orally bring her to an orgasm for the first time.
Make sure you stay within God’s economy in enjoying variety. Keep adventures within the love and respect each has for the other's feelings, and don't pressure each other. Let your creative minds and loving companionship produce the ultimate in electricity and adventure. Determine to be more experimental, curious, and adventuresome in lovemaking. Explore individual inspirations and risk being uncomfortable trying new things.
Adventure can be enhanced as you also find the energy and childlikeness to give way to uninhibited feelings. Get-ting excited, silly, truly alive and aroused has a marvelous aphrodisiac effect. Romp in the shower, groan in passionate ecstasy, and have long gourmet sessions of fun feelings.
Traditions
Here is another of those paradoxes, and we need both sides for exciting sexual intimacy. God is a God of adventure and variety but is also the same yesterday, today, and forever. Comfortable patterns and consistent enjoyment are also a part of aphrodisiacs. Couples will have positions of intercourse, special touches, and certain places they will return to again and again. Familiarity can breed joy and arousal.
Intimate Companionship
A fun companionship stimulates a great sex life. If you feel in love, you will be more likely to maKe love. Here are some ways to maintain sexual closeness:
Plan more regular vacations. Be creative. A vacation doesn't have to be a week in the Bahamas. But busy couples should plan at least two one-week vacations and six other overnights or long weekends in a year. It isn't an option if you are a busy couple wanting to revitalize your companionship and lovemaking.
Plan date nights for romantic companionship. Make a date night at least twice a month, and go out to enjoy each other.
Find a window of time to talk each night, and keep in better touch with each other through phone and e-mail. Connecttion really helps both partners feel like making love more often.
Plan surprises for variety and routines for closeness. Try new sexual techniques. Make sure you’ve taken privacy precautions and then make love in every room of the house, in the shower, or in both cars. Plan surprises for each other from a romantic video to some fabulous smelling body lotion. Be playful with each other.
Couples also need routines to foster that loving interaction. Concentrate more on simple, nurturing gestures like kissing each other when one or both leave or get home from work. Go to bed together and hug nude for a minute before putting on nightclothes. Talk for ten minutes after meals or hold hands in the car. Routines maintain closeness.
Set goals and prioritize. Commit to certain days to make love. Negotiate in structured time for sex. Make it a priority that you won't bump from your schedule.
Time Out: You don't have to wait for a vacation: enhance your sex life. Make love every day for five days in a row! Start on Thursday and have sexual activity day through Monday. (The weekend times should be easier than weekdays.) Sex will become an expected part of each day's activity, and you will learn so much about initiative and making love as you overcome fatigue and other obstacles.
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