Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy are two types of intimacy in a relationship. Emotional intimacy is essentially communication, from superficial to deep and meaningful.Physical intimacy consits of physical contact from touch to the most intimate connections two human bodies can have,i.e. bedroom activity between a couple.Emotional intimacy is tied very closely to physical intimacy and they are both important to happiness in marriage.
Quickies
When Lori and Paul were dating and newly married, their time in the bedroom was special to them. They would prepare with showers (sometimes together), they would massage each other and they would have that was aimed at pleasing the other partner. Then with young children, Lori and Paul only have time for quick, transactional sex.They both feel the same way about the situation.
"When we had more time and energy. We used to spend so much time enjoying each other, but now we have so many responsibilities. We have to hurry it up and neither one of us find it greatly intimate."
The little things
Due to work, children and other factors, David and Michelle have just come less physically intimate with each other. They hardly ever have sex. They never sit on the couch next to each other and their children can't remember the last time they saw their parents kiss.
Sometimes Michelle will sit up next to David. She will tickle his ear or kiss his neck but he won't respond in a reciprocal way.
"David never responds when I come up to him and try to physically engage him. Is there something wrong with me?"
"Michelle sometimes tries to initiate physical intimacy but with work and kids, I'm so tired and I'm worried that I won't perform as well as she would want me to."
Secret : physical intimacy is just as important as emotional intimacy
Physical touch is important to human beings.Physical intimacy doesn't just mean sex though. It can mean any form of physical touch that is shared especially between two people. This may include hadn holding,kissing,massaging,patting, or more.Of course, one of the more popular means of physical intimacy is sex. Studies have shown that couples who have sex more often are happier than those less frequent counterparts.
Hereby some ideas on how to keep physical intimacy active and a priority in your relationship are provided:
•Take a walk together and hold hands.
•Take a shower together and take turns cleaning each other.
•Recall and talk about your first date and first time having sex.
•Stare into each other's eyes for several minutes.
•Turn on some music in the house and dance around the rooms.
•Have sex in a room or area that you don't normally do.
•Give your partner a little peep show by leaving the lights on and letting them see your body.
•Have slower sex by going half the speed you normally go at.
•Reach under your table and touch your partner unexpectedly.
•Always maintain healthy physical boundaries that you both agree unpon in the early stages of your relationship.
It is important to make sure that physical intimacy is balanced with all the other aspects of your relationship. For example, if you're not spending time listening to each other and sharing your feelings but only focusing your efforts on having sex,it may serve in a negative manner towards your relationship.
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