When it comes to what we think makes for great sex,it's either about specific techniques and things you can be doing better of more of. Or it's about spicing up your sex life in creative ways. Here's the thing about remarkable sex: it isn't what we think it is, because what we think it is one spicy sex position that is “Secret”, or deiving into blindfolds and whips and chains just because it's novel and exciting.
These currently prevailing ideas are true and undoubtedly helpful, but they're misleading as they can sometimes cause us to skip over and ignore the root issue of down-right unenjoyable sex. This is just like using a duct tape to mend a crumbling house. It might be able to fix things up for a while but it's not destined for sex. If wonderful sex isn’t about novelty, isn’t about exciting fetishes, and isn’t about the specific techniques and positions, what is it about?
Researcher Peggy Kleinplatz conducted multiple studies on the issue and found a set of elements that were far more indicative to great sex than novelty or spiciness. Kleinplatz also found in her study that actual orgasms and attraction were not part of what made remarkable sex. The eights elements that many respondents listed in Peggy Kleinplatz’s studies as the most important are as below and these elements were consistent across all age groups, genders, ethnicities and even locations.
These elements include:
1.Presence
2.Connection
3.Intimacy
4.Communication
5.Authenticity
6.Bliss
7.Exploration
8.Vulnerability
Many magazines have bragged much about novelty or spiciness to great sex rather than those indicative elements as above. Much of what's contained in the magazine hardly can figure into the results as they didn't help people's sex lives at all and didn't make a difference in practice.If you compare what's covered in the magazine with those eight elements as above, you might reconsider what really matters to great sex in a completely different perspective. What’s more, if you dig more deeply or reflect yourself more carefully, probably you’ll agree with the eight elements as above more.
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