You may be a newlywed and have just started on the journey of exploring your sexual sensations and becoming orgasmic; you might be a little disappointed that sexual arousal hasn't fallen into place more easily, because you find your husband very sexy. Maybe you have been married for years and have felt very frustrated that the pleasure of a climax has always eluded you. Somehow stimulating your clitoris doesn’t produce the desired results.
Anxiety and frustration have possibly crept in as an unfortunate sexual saboteur and made the existing sexual problems worse. Anxiety can become a real killer of sexual arousal. Instead of relaxing and enjoying lovemaking with sensuous abandonment, you worry about the process and are upset that you are not orgasmic. Too much focus is now off you, and you are trying too hard to achieve a climax.
Let me reassure you. You can overcome this hurdle like so many women before you, and you are definitely not alone! Women commonly face this issue. God has given you the body, mind, and sexual feelings to be orgasmic—you just have to learn the skills.
You may have been raised in a very sexually repressive home or church setting and need to sort through this for healing. Personality-wise you may need control or anxiously try too hard; or your marriage may have produced some scars if your husband in his frustration pressured you for sex. Many women have been victimized by sexual abuse, and these traumas may especially require some professional help to resolve. These roadblocks may need to be get rid of because you should have the sexual confidence that women can become more easily orgasmic.
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