Sometimes life poses us with unexpected problems or situations hard for us to deal with. And then we are facing with arguments, disagreements and conflicts we have to deal with. Especially when we are in an intimate relationship, arguments are unavoidable. If we don't deal with them reasonably, troubles may occur.In a relationship, arguments are nothing short of draining. They affect your mood and ultimately your ability to perform in other areas of your life.
In most of the time, arguments just arise from a simple miscommunication. It maybe inconsequential but may somehow toubles you for en entire day or longer all over your world.
There is always a case when you have planned a travel with your partner in advance. However, days later when something important in her job may haunts her and she just told you to cancel the travel plan or just let you to go alone. It may be so unacceptable at first, making you disppointed.She may argue that you are not understanding enough from her perspective. What was already a potentially vulnerable request on your behalf is being ignored;you shut down because argue about something is so stupid. As a result, you're just unwilling to take part in any other plans together anymore.
The biggest misconception in arguments condition in a relationship is that many couples consider apologizing as a sign of weakness. The truth is that the inability to apologize makes you appear weak to your partner and implies that you can't handle someone looking through the cracks in your armor.
In current eras, "Appha male" has become a concept of that past. Strong,condident and community-minded leaders are taking over the world but your significan other doesn't want you to stubbornly push ahead and pretend like you did nothing wrong. She wants you to be strong minded but egoless enough to admit that you are a human and you also made a mistake.
Apologiszing is not compromising your value or integrity. Apologizing is honest and authentic. Refuse to apologize (especially when you know you are in the wrong) is stubborn and emotionally guarded.
Women often hear communication from their partner through the lens of “Am I being loved right now?”
Men often hear communication through the lens of “Am I being challenged right now?”
We all make mistakes in our relationships (we are only human) and it's critical that we know how to effectively and thoroughly apologize for those mistakes.
The beautiful thing about apologizing in a leading way is that there is everything to gain: having a greater sense of integrity, experiencing character growth, maturing emotionally, and relying less on ego-based thinking. Being seen as more attractive to your significant other and making her happier aren't bad side effects either.
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