Not only is that a blow to your femininity, but it’s also a real feeling that he wanted more than you were able to give him. She is younger. She is everything you used to be, but you need to see the whole picture. Did you act in an old way? Was life fun together? Sometimes, people who feel a load of jealous feelings when this happens feel inadequate, but they need not feel inadequate if they did nothing to merit the event happening. If, however, they did - then they need to examine that so as not to make the same mistake again. A woman of 60 can be every bit as young in mind as a woman of 30, so was it your outlook on life that was making him feel old? The point is that examination helps you to put things into perspective. In a case such as this, I would examine several things.
●Was your partner someone who worried about getting old?
●Did you have a good sex life, and did you go out regularly?
●Was he usually faithful?
●Has he apologized, and has he stayed with her?
Sometimes, a man worries about getting old, and it could be his psychological clock that was working against him rather than any thing that you did. There's no point in being jealous. The event happened. What you have to decide upon now is how to deal with the humiliation that is left in the wake of the event. If you can start looking at his self-esteem issues, you may find that the fault lies there. It was nothing you had done, and it has nothing to do with how your partner felt about you. It was his weakness and his lack of self-esteem that made him behave in that way. Although you may feel humiliated, you have no reason to be if you look at things logically. Your husband has probably made more of a fool of himself in the eyes of your friends than you have. Thus, by keeping calm and not letting yourself get pulled into jealousy, you are much more likely to keep your self-esteem intact and win the approval of your friends and family.
One thing that you can learn from this is that his ego was taking a battering by being old. Now, think about it. When he advances another 20 years, she will still be young. Do you think that her ego will accept him as a partner? It's never your fault in a situation like this, and no matter how much your ex tries to turn the blame on you, try to avoid showing any form of jealousy. Show pity and empathy for him. That may sound hard to do, but once you try it, you will see that what you achieve is a feeling that you are still complete and that the flaw lies with him.
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