“I support you!” really matters in a marriage. Mr. Jane lives together with her mother-in-law after marriage. She actually has the ability to deal with complicated family relationship. She revealed to me that when she went shopping together with her husband and her mother-in-law, she wanted to buy a box of Chinese cherry as they’re just so fresh and look very delicious. However, her mother-in-law just objected by saying no to waste even if they can earn some money.
She was a little uncomfortable by then and left the fruits shelf silently. But what made her surprised was that she found her husband had silently picked up a box of Chinese cherry when checking the bill. At that moment all her complaints about her marriage had disappeared because she had felt that her beloved husband’s understanding her grievance.
When your passion had been cooled down in marriage, what could be used to support your long-term love? “I will try my best to support you!”
In “The Lost World”, Japanese author had described love, passion and hate between Ruizhi and her entrepreneur husband Junsi. At the beginning when Ruizhi found her husband’s unfaithfulness, she could just tolerate him because the marriage could bring stability to her and it was even a ticket for her to strive into the upper social class. What made Ruizhi finally choose divorce was that her husband just got near to another woman when they three met unexpectedly in awkwardness.
Your faithfulness just began to break up when you’re used to stand opposite to each other. Couples who don’t support each other so strongly may just begin to lose faithfulness to their marriage. An author named Wang Xiaobo had ever described how it sounded when you speak “I support you!” “I will cry if you like others. But I still love you!” This sentence has delivered the most sincere feeling in the world. “When I decide to love you, I will support you whatever you do!”
Couples having such epiphany in marriage can bear great waves like a strong boat in a sea.
An old professor had shared his secrets of gaining happiness in both his career life and family life.
"I always follow strict principles in my job while no principles in my family life. This is probably my wits in life.” He revealed that his wife was always bad in temper and liked beating their child every time she was angry. Then he just spared as much time as possible to stay with his child. Every time he stayed with his child, they were always bursting in laughing. Finally his wife murmured in front of him one day : “I need to change my temper. Otherwise, our son will just love his father but not his mother!”
"The most childish thought in marriage is that you hope your partner could
change some of his or her habit as long as you teach him or her. How was that
possible?! You just get married when you’re at your 20s or 30s rather than being
engaged since you were in kindergarten. How could you show that you are right
when you blame others to be wrong? When you exert expectations on others, expect
yourself first. Then you can gradually affect her, warm her and attract
her!”
It was very windy that afternoon when I left that old professor’s home, but I suddenly understood true meaning in marriage.
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