"We need to talk." There are perhaps no other four words in the English language that can cause a person's heart to skip a beat as the ones in the previous sentence. Men usually flinch at hearing those words, and find themselves going through a rapid inventory of what they might have done wrong in the past few days. (Although females are usually the ones who resort to saying a statement such as this, some males are known to invoke it too.) It's kind of evocative of being asked to go to the head teacher's office. You wonder what you have done wrong, but from the tone of the words, you know that there is going to be some kind of consequence and that this is as a result of your actions.
Saying that you feel the need to talk to your significant other usually implies more than just the need to communicate. It can also be a symptom of something that has gone wrong in the relationship. Usually, this need to talk stems from the initiating party's sentiment that his or her needs are not being suitably met, if at all. In relationships between unmarried couples, some-thing like this serves as a minor wake-up call. Between married couples, however, it can sometimes be the beginning of a downward spiral, although talk doesn't have to result in a race to the divorce courts. Talk can be quite stimulating but many couples don't take advantage of that and ifs a shame. Talk helps you to see your partner in their true light and it also helps you to know all about each other’s needs in life. It can open doors to wonderful opportunity to get to know facets of your partner's personality that you never really knew. Try a different approach from the “We need to talk” tactic as there are better ways to open up a dialog with a partner even in a bad situation. Think of the words "we need to talk'* as being a little clichéd. If you do need to talk, open the conversation with something at least a little more inviting.
Nearly half of 21 century marriages have been known to end in divorce, for one reason or another, but a breakdown in communication between spouses is a common factor. Intimate and effective communication is key to maintaining all good relationships, but it is especially crucial in a marriage for several reasons, some of which include the following：
1. ) Effective communication between spouses encourages constant reaffirmation.
2. ) Regular and open communication can prevent and even clear up any confusion between married people.
3. ) Healthy patterns of communication between spouses lead to better overall marital satisfaction and health.
4. ) Effective communication between spouses can also lead to healthier and longer lives for those involved.
5. ) Loving communication between husbands and wives also leads to happier homes as well as better-developed and well- adjusted children.
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