You need to master the base knowledge and understanding of the female sexual anatom so you can feel confident in your ability to pleasure your partner sexually. Because when you and your partner are feeling sexually satisfied with each other, the unnecessary fights stop, your confidence soars and your relationship is that much more fulfilling and connected.Sex is much deeper than simply getting her sufficient wet enough for you to put your penis inside her. Sex is a transformative tool that, when executed properly, connects you to your partner more deeply than anything else. Conversation and praise wish they had the same level of power as passionate sex does in a relationship.To praise yoru partner sexually, you need to care about the following words: pelvic,presence,lasting in bed,variety,intensity,control.
PELVIC is a go-to acronym I use for what makes sex a complete and satisfying experience for women.
Presence refers to how present you feel to her. Does it seem like you are in your head and trying to pull off some technique that you read about in a men's magazine as opposed to actually being aware of her? Then you will not come across as present. Forget how you think you should be pleasuring her, and pay attention to how she is responding to you, moment to moment.Be generous with your eye contact and listen to every bit of feedback she gives you.
Emotion is an undeniably integral part of having sex with your partner. Part of staying present with your partner is showing her how she affects you emotionally. Whether that emotion is desire, appreciation, love, or lust, let it show without censoring it. Your sex life is the place for you to let it all hang out and be the most honest version of yourself possible.
Lasting in bed means different lengths of time to different people. Some women can achieve orgasm in under two minutes, while other women take over 20 minutes to climax. The vast majority of men ejaculate in under three minutes from penetrative intercourse and because of this, most women don't experience penetrative orgasms with their partners. Every man has had difficulties with premature ejaculation at scheme paint in his life. Over 30% of men who suffer from chronic P.E. last anywhere from 15-60 seconds (many don’t even make it to penetration). If you are going to help your partner achieve a penetrative orgasm, it is imperative that you learn to delay your orgasm and help her reach hers before you both climax (more on this in the following chapters).
Variety is the spice of life and this doubles when it comes to your sex life. If you are doing it right, sex with the your partner is never the exact same experience. You can learn to go deeper and deeper into your sexual selves and push each other’s sexual boundaries to see what you both desire and are capable of.
Intensity is the collective strength, power, and presence that you bring to your sexual experiences. Your partner needs you take her and ravish her open during some of your sexual encounters. If your sexual endeavors are explorative, drawn-out evenings filled with laughter and emotional connection, that's not necessarily a bad thing depending on your partner... but if that's all you are capable of giving her, she might need you to step up a little sexual polarity once in a while.
Control is your ability to lead your sexual experience with your partner. Whether that means bringing her to climax or delaying your ejaculation, physically putting her in different positions, or knowing when to dial up or down the sexual polarity. It is essential to stay aware of her and her emotional needs throughout the entire process. Control is being able to calibrate your actions to what your partner needs in each moment and it is necessary for a deeply fulfilling sexual experience.
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