It is quite normal that we human beings have weaknesses such as fears. We may be regular people frozen with the approach anxiety that comes from initiating an interaction with a stranger. We're all afraid of rejection and the unknown. We can call behaviours under this state as Frozen Guy Behavior or Frozen Girl Behavior. If you look closely, you can spot FGBers everywhere.
If we didn't have approach anxiety it would be a shitload easier. But we do and this has mostly to do with our fear of getting rejected by women. Beforehand we start thinking the worst case possible. Probably, she will slap me or tell me to fuck off in front of all other people. Or what should I say to her? Or do after I said, "-Hi"? All of these thoughts and others ones make us feel anxious.
However, the truth is that most women is usually nice even they aren't attracted to you. Sure, there are always some rare birdies out there and that will basically tell you to fuck off. But often that is not the case and if a girl does that then she is actually making you a huge favor, why? Would you like to have that type of women in your life? At least, I would not!
Another thing we noticed was that we usually feel more anxious before approaching a girl. But after we did then the anxiety starts disappearing as we talk to her. Therefore, if you experience FGB, don't look for a way to magically reduce your fear but instead,you'd better do something revolutionary. You'd better suck it up and go talk to that hot girl right away. See the hottie, feel the fear, go approach, act nervous and stupid, be rejected, chalk a winning up to action, win confidence and gradually become better at tackling a fear.
In approch anxiety, you are in a state of fear of being rejected. But you just need that a little bit of fear. A healthy person has a bit of fear in their lives every day. Without fear or anxiety, you're not challenging yourself and growing but just staying in a comfort zone without any progress.
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