• Guidelines for Discovery and Disclosure

    Few experiences in life are more traumatic than learning of a beloved partner’s intimate betrayal. As infidelity expert, Dr. Shirley Glass states, the private calamity of discovering that your partner has become someone you don’t recognize and has lied to you as if you were an enemy blows your secure world to pieces. She goes on to observe, in just a few seconds, the safest haven in th
    Linda J. MacDonald, M.S., LMFT 3 years ago 5411 Read more...
  • The Organizer VS. the Free Spirit

    The organizer will give attention to the details while the spontaneous person — “the free spirit” — thinks, “The details will take care of themselves.” Organizers are planners; they will spend months in preparation for a trip out of town. They will check three different websites, looking for the best airfare. They will make sure the rental car has GPS. They will make hotel reservations
    Gary D. Chapman 3 years ago 5263 Read more...
  • Professors VS. Dancers

    Some people are extremely logical in their reasoning. They progress through rational steps and reach what to them is a logical conclusion. Other people simply know in their heart what is right in a given situation. They cannot tell you why or how they reached that conclusion; they simply know that it is the right decision. Sometimes the logical thinker can be called the professor. For th
    Gary D. Chapman 3 years ago 5659 Read more...
  • Passives VS. Aggressives

    The old adage says, “Some people read history; others make it.” Often these people are married to each other. The aggressive husband or wife believes that each day is a new opportunity to advance the cause. They will aggressively pursue what they want, what they believe to be right, or what they think should happen. They will go to all ends, they will turn every stone, and they will do
    Gary D. Chapman 3 years ago 5331 Read more...
  • Are You Neatniks or Slobs?

    There are the Neatnik and the Slob. Some people do live by the motto “A place for everything and everything in its place.” Other people have no compulsion to put away their tools, clothes, used coffee mugs, or anything else. After all, they may use them again in a week or two. They reason, “why would you want to waste time picking up dirty clothes every day? Leave them on the floor u
    Gary D. Chapman 3 years ago 5650 Read more...
  • When the Dead Sea Weds a Babbling Brook

    Another area of personality differences is related to speech. Some people talk freely about everything. Others are more thoughtful, introspective, and less likely to share their thoughts and feelings. I have often referred to the latter as the “dead Sea” and the former as the “babbling Brook.” In the nation of Israel, the Dead Sea receives waters from the Jordan River. But the Dead
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  • Half Full or Half Empty?

    The pessimist and the optimist are often attracted to each other and this pair is often a kind of personality difference before marriage. The optimist sees the glass as half full; the pessimist sees it as half empty. The optimist sees the possibilities while the pessimist sees the problems. Each of us has a basic leaning in one direction or the other, but we are often unaware of this asp
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  • Do You Respect What You Really Want?

    It is often very difficult to know how to resolve conflicting desires arising in a relationship without stirring up resentful feelings, especially in a marriage. Actually there are ways to get love and respect you want, and be able to consider everyone's needs. But the best methods always begins by looking inward. Whenever you're made feel frustrated or worried about the relationsh
    Beth Banning and Neill Gibson 3 years ago 5020 Read more...
  • Do You Really Understand Compassion?

    Compassion literllay means "to suffer together". Among emotion researchers, it is defined as the feeling that arises when you're confronted with another's suffering and feel motivated to relieve that suffering. Even compassion is related to empathy or altruism, or self-sacrifice.Actually they are not the same. Compassion is greatly involved in relationships. When you
    Beth Banning and Neill Gibson 3 years ago 5277 Read more...
  • Unconditional Love Is Possible

    As what has been discussed that we believe everything in our world is actualy a reflection of you. Therefore, if you believe in unconditional love, it's possible. But have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means and what it would take to give yourself or your spouse this kind of love? To many individuals hold unconditional love as an ideal, not as a possibility. Howeve
    Beth Banning and Neill Gibson 3 years ago 5153 Read more...

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