Marry your best friend.
Best advice:
•Laugh a lot
•Develop common friendships
•Have private time together besides the bedroom
•Have private time together including the bedroom
•Have private time with your children (1 on 1)
•Share realistic expectations for your children
•Talk through tough times
•Listen to one another
•Understand and acknowledge your belief systems
Go with God- The closer you both are to God, the better your marriage will be. Get involved and invested with Him. You will live through anything even if and when you and your spouse gets off of being on the same Page.Your love will have phases. Sometimes it will be intense and strong, and sometimes it will be weak and barely registering on a Richter scale. Remember why you fell in love with one another when things go away. Regardless, it will always be just you two as a couple and the love you foster.
The secret of a happy marriage is a short memory and a sense of humor.
Best advice: Forgive often, laugh lots and love fiercely Laugh together a lot and find humor in your lives.
Date regularly.
Do not say anything you cannot take back or would regret later. Once those words have passed your lips, there’s no going back.
Do not stop having fun together.
Always find something to laugh about.
Enjoy the years you have together with your spouse, who will be your best friend.
Don't sweat the small stuff and always compromise. No partner's interests should ever be more important the whole. Remember "we wait until at least 30 to get married. I don't think anyone really knows who they are and what they want from life until at least 30. When you get married too young, you have not had enough experiences in life. I believe you would choose a very different life partner at 20 than at 30. Enjoy the journey together before marriage to provide the solid foundation required after marriage.
Find your spouse’s "love language" and cater to it.
First and foremost, ensure God is the center of your relationship Corinthians J 3:4-7 posted where it can be referred to daily, especially on difficult days. Keeping communication open will make it easier to be patient, kind, trusting, forgiving, etc. It's much easier and less painful to drive slowly over a speed bump than try to floor it over gravel.
Communication is the key to a good marriage from daily events to finances. Every part of each other's lives should be gladly shared.
It's not a 50-50. Both must give 100%.
Focus on finding joy! Laugh at yourself more than each other.
Earplugs!
The “little woman is always right”.
Never say something that would hurt the others feelings or self-esteem.
Support each other.
Wake up smiling, make a loving effort to be good to your spouse through the day, and be willing to “give in” occasionally.
Pick your battles.
Keep a sense of humor and give both of you space.
Each partner is an individual with needs of their own. Don't go to bed angry; and kiss and hug often.
Addition to being in love, sure you really like your intended “just the way they are”, because the chances that they will change are very slim. With this in mind, discuss all those topics that you think will take of themselves, because in most likelihood they won’t, and eventually you will have to deal with them. Remember it’s never going to be just “ME" anymore, but from now on it’s “us”.
You are also marrying into a new family and that needs to be considered.Can you enjoy those holiday happenings, survive the onslaught of togetherness, and return to your family with love intact?
Communication is of up most importance.
Possessiveness
Controlling tendencies
Avoid anyone that doesn’t love dogs!
Marry your best friend. Period. No exceptions.
Talk, dream and take walks together.
Keep friends and interests of you own so that you have things to talk about besides kids, money, sex, and the in.
Difficulties come in all sizes but discerning which need immediate attention and which can slide a bit is essential.
Talk about things before they become time bombs.
Say "I’m sorry "if you were wrong (and sometimes when you don't think you were wrong but might have been).
Laugh together in good times and bad.
Be grateful for what you have and where you are and then work on the areas that need fine tuning.
Enjoy yourselves as marriage isn't a dress rehearsal.
Put God first and as your core being in your relationship. Show respect for one another each and everyday.
Communicate! At all times, keep your communication open even when you don’t want to. Sometimes it's easy to keep things to yourself but that will not solve anything. You may not agree on everything and that is all right.
From Shakespeare Sonnet 116. "Love is not love that alters when an alteration finds." Love each other like there is no tomorrow...you never know when you can lose the love of your life. Life is short.. .make the most of it everyday.
The only thing more beautiful than young love is old love!
Be sure to say “Thank You’”at least 10 times a day!
Wish each other well every single day!
Communicate! Don't assume the other person should know what you think and feel.
Find friends who pray
Daring your marriage, you will take hundred of photos of special events, births, vacations and holiday. My suggestion to you is to keep a diary of more ordinary events like a joke you both thought was really funny, the day you could finally pay your credit card bill in full, or a beautiful sunset. You might think of this as “the best”of us. This diary will be a reference to remind you how much you love your spouse on the "not so good" days.
Always give at least 60%, expect 40%.
Always, when things may seem rough, go back to the beginning and remember why you married your spouse. Spend time thinking of all the things that were there in the beginning. Focus on that time with an open heart and mind.
Love completely. Keep the passion hot! With time, the passion will become a simmer, but that is OK because there is still passion. Communicate about everything. You may be surprised to find out that the other person has no idea what you are thinking if you don't explain. Make it fun with lots of joy and happiness on your part to show how much you care.
Fight to have that excitement you have on your wedding day forever. Realize that the day you take each other as husband and wife, that everyone else in your life is second to your spouse. If you have children you will love them more than you thought humanly possible. but, by right of time, they will leave you and go on with their lives. When this time comes, you will be lucky to still have each other. You are to be each other's constant in life. If you make it this far, you will be thrilled just to have the one you love sitting in the chair across from you and feeling comfort just having them there.
I often have heard people say "don’t go to bed mad or angry” I don’t think that is possible. I say, “don’t go to bed not talking. My wife has this gift, as she never let us go to sleep without saying good night” or “I love you”. I didn't have the gift, but she taught me and I thank her for that.
Admit when you are wrong.
Treat your spouse with the most love and care you can every day. When he or she is gone, only then do you Realize you could have made it much better if you had only tried a little harder.
Best advice: give each other space so you can come together with joy.
Laugh together- humor will get you through same difficult times.
Have separate interests and then some you share- you'll be more interesting.
Share kindness to not only each other but to others, talk about money, children, and faith early on.
Don't give up quickly, a great marriage takes work and effort from both spouses-not just one.
Be willing to get help before things get beyond help.
Always make time for each other, support each other, and laugh, laugh, laugh!
You can not change the one you love. Once you say, “I do to each other you need to be committed to helping and encouraging one another. It needs to occur on both sides of the relationship.
Never go to bed angry. Work it out and end the day with a kiss.
Marry someone equally yoked with your morals and spiritual beliefs，They aren't going to change after they say 'I do'.
You need to have very well defined boundaries of what you expect from each other, and live up to those expectations.
Go into marriage with a failure is not an option' attitude.
Never use words as weapons. Words can be forgiven but aren't forgotten. Regret and resentment are tools the devil can use to damage (or even destroy) the gift God gives to you 'in holy matrimony'.
Don't use your spouse’s past against them unless you’re ready to relive the past you are resurrecting.
Behave in a manner that honors your spouse when together or apart.
Pray together Worship God together, and put each other first... after your relationship with the Lord. He's the only one faithful enough to support you when life (&potentially your spouse) let you down.
Always, always, always, always respect your mate...and yourself.
Be patient and communicate, communicate, communicate and spend time worshiping God together.
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