You would be extremely surprised at the number of couples living in a marriage devoid of intimacy today. According to researchers, about 25% of today couples live in a sexless marriage. So if your marriage is lacking intimacy at the moment, you are not alone. However, just as your marriage needs trust, love, and honesty to thrive, it also needs intimacy. Intimacy is very important in every marriage. You cannot afford to allow your sex life to go boring; you become roommates instead of a couple in a marriage. Lack of intimacy in your marriage can also lead to frustration and bring in other problems into your relationship. On the other hand, it’s very difficult to maintain the same level of closeness you had with your partner as when you were newly married because after all these years, the kids, the challenges and every other thing in between, it's easy to lose the intimacy.
To repair the intimacy in your marriage, here are some things that you can do：
Understand the Differences in Gender:
The intimate needs of a man would always differ from those of a woman and it is very important for you to understand this. You must understand and respect the fact that you and your partner have different sexual needs. If your husband is demanding ‘too much sex' you must understand that it is in his nature to do so because he is a man and would naturally have a higher sex drive.
If your wife does not have the same sexual drive as you, you must also understand that she is a woman and her sexual needs and drives would always differ from yours. It is very important for you and your partner to understand this factor and always be tolerant and patient with each other.
Once you understand that you have different sexual needs, then you can chart the way forward of ensuring that you meet each other's needs.
Identify The Problem： W hat is the real reason why the intimacy has gone you're your relationship? What pressures are on you that have caused you to lose interest in intimacy? Are there any financial problems or other stresses that have caused this lack of intimacy? It is important to find out where the problem lies in order for you to know how to begin to fix it.
Understand Your Partner's Intimacy Style： Apart from the fact that the intimacy needs of each gender differs, every inc visual also has their own unique intimate style. Some people are very physical love to be touched while some other people do not like to be touched. Some people 1 public display of affection while some people would just freak out if you tried kiss them in public. It is therefore intend for you to understand your partner's’ unique intimate style and try to work with it.
Give it Time: One step at a time is what it would take. You cannot rush it or expect it to happen overnight. Rather than taking drastic steps to rebuild the intimacy in your marriage, take small, gradual steps one day at a time.
Share Your Secrets: Little secrets would only build up and lead to bigger problems in the future. True intimacy comes from feeling vulnerable to your partner and that can only happen when you genuinely share your secrets with them.
Increase physical Contact： The hugs, the goodbye kisses, the holding of hands, and all the subtle touches are very important. You may not get the time to have sex everyday or even hold deep conversations but these little physical contacts daily serves as a constant reminder that you are committed to each other.
Avoid Pornography： In the process of trying to rebuild the intimacy in your marriage, pornography is something that you must let go of and this is why; Pornography creates unrealistic expectations from your partner. It triggers body image problems and fears of betrayal and might drive you and your partner further apart from each other.
Sex： You can't deny the place of sex in any marriage. Sex is view important. You would find it difficult to share yourself or your body with someone else. Therefore, you have to work on your body and your self-esteem so that you can feel more open to sharing yourself and your body with your partner. Conclusion Challenges in your marriage don't have to lead to divorce. No matter what the challenge is in your marriage, you can always fix it. As I mentioned earlier, challenges should be seen as a 'call out' to work harder on your marriage rather than a time to flee.
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