Sometimes, all that is needed is to bring everything to a halt; assuming that all life's troubles are not with you. This means that when it comes to sex every thing else should be left out. Partners should avoid complaining about the kids and how they have been so upsetting, how work has been crazy, how traffic was a mess and so on. Peace and tranquility can be a sexy atmosphere. The couple can light scented candles and sip a bottle of wine and just talk about themselves, to add romance in their marriage. Some music that both of you like listening to can be in the background and there should be no pressure of sex. Enjoying the moment should be the agenda. This may ultimately lead to sex but it should not be the only goal of setting up the mood. It may seem rather simplistic but think about it. When was the last time you and your partner did some of these things? It takes only a little effort. Hereby some tips on adding romance to your marriage in a smart way. Please be patient and endeavor efforts to your love and marriage.
And after sex
To make sex a worthwhile experience, there should be some form of physical connection after making love. It throws women off if immediately after sex, the man rolls over and sleeps. A little cuddling helps cement the bond between two people, snuggling up after sex promotes trust between two people. It is at this time even the most intimate thoughts can be shared. Couples can use that moment to discuss what they find tantalizing in bed and what they fantasize about. So, partners should take that chance to know more about each other because there is a positive vibe surrounding them at that time.
Couples massage
Professional couple's massage happens to be a great way to relieve pressure off the chest and also happens to be very sensual. Many spas, massage salons and boutiques now provide this service. This is where a couple can receive a massage at the same time. It may not be so sexual but the sensuality of it is very sexy and leaves you feeling good; especially having shared this experience with your partner. The choice of the masseuse in most places that offer this service is up to the couple. There is also a choice as to the parts of the body that the couple wants to be massaged.
Most of the times, the parlor is set to a romantic setting with candles and soothing music. The masseuse concentrates on certain tension areas that the couple shows them and you will not even notice time elapsing. Some places offer an after session where they are directed to a room where they are given wine and some time alone. It depends on what package you take This is a great way to spice things up in the marriage because of the sensual experience. It is a time when the couple can forget all the stresses of life and enjoy just being together. Sex after such an experience is as sensual as the massage.
The power of lip contact
As we mentioned earlier human contact is not just about sex. To cement that bond kissing is a good way to improve the sex life. Kissing triggers a connection based on emotions between two people. There is no limit as to when partners should kiss but kissing during sex improves the partner’s ability to trust in each other.
Looking into each other's soul through the eyes
While having sex, maintaining eye contact is crucial to making sure that your partner understands that your focus is totally on him or her. It makes sure that they know your mind is in sync with your body and that you are totally absorbed in the moment. They will realize that you are focused on their body and not in a fantasy world with someone else. Married couples often undermine such subtle gestures even though they are the gestures that brought them together.
The power of touch
Human beings especially women are highly influenced by touch. It helps to hold each other in an embrace that speaks volumes of how much you desire each other. Taking one’s time is important to ensure that you build up to the moment. Going straight to the genitals during romancing is tantamount to feelings of lust. While it is not disputable that you can lust for each other once in a while! it is important to avoid making it the norm. Sometimes it requires you to work the physical connection until your sexual desire is in sync.
Public display of affection
Often, as couples progress on in the marriage they forget how display of affection in public invokes many invigorating feelings to their love life. Think about an elderly couple holding hands as they walk. It portrays an image that leaves you feeling that they have truly found the secret to happiness. PDA as many would call it, has becomes such a lost art in many marriages.
Some feel embarrassed about it and others may not do this; but are happy all the same. It does not have to go all the way to deep kissing. It can range from smiling at each other, looking deep into each other's eyes, holding hands or just a brief kiss. These displays are normally contagious and make your partner realize how much you love them. It invites positive feelings to the marriage and love life. Imagine if you had a disagreement and you just hold your partner's hand gently. It does bring a renewed sense of comfort to both of you and happens to be very reassuring. It is these same feelings that are invoked by displays of affection. Your partner will have warm feelings inside and will feel loved and wanted. You will find that even love making will be better because of this positive reassurance.
The Classic love notes
Majority of couples underestimate the importance of love notes. They appear simplistic and partners may think they have no impact. These notes can be written in a cute way or they could be just plain naughty. You could describe in your own words how you love your partner and how much you enjoyed the previous love making session. You can also use them as a form of foreplay.
You could describe to your partner instructions on what to do when they get home. This will need you to plan ahead for a romantic night. You could go home, set up the bedroom with candles, wine and roses. Then, you can drop love notes each step of the way. The first love note could tell your partner to remove their clothes. Second one could tell them to take three glasses of wine to get into the mood. Third one could tel] him or her to put on a sexy outfit that you bought and the fourth one could direct him or her to the bedroom and stand still once at the door. The notes have to be placed very systematically such that your partner cannot see one before the other. It is at this point you can put a blindfold and have a steamy love making session. Of course for this to work, you will have to have the house to yourselves.
There is another way to use love notes to evoke warm fuzzy feelings in your partner's heart. You could hide love notes in all manner of places where your partner is likely to find them. Such places include the silverware drawer, inside the wallet, inside the medicine cabinet, in the rear view mirror of the car or in their shoes. These love notes are easy to find yet come as a good surprise to your partner and will spice things up in the marriage. Take care not to make it a habit though; it should be unpredictable.
Buy me this, I buy you that
There are times you look at the television set and see sexy items of clothing that you would want your partner to wear. Once on a while, a married couple can go shopping for sexy clothes together. By sexy, it doesn't mean a dress or tight t-shirt. This means sexy lingerie and the like. You as a couple can decide to do this for every anniversary and every special occasion so that it does not lose its edge. There is only one rule that should govern the shopping. The rule is that, one partner should pick the other's clothes and vice versa. No one should pick the clothes they want to buy. This is one way to discover each other’s fantasies because the partners pick the clothes that would turn them on.
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